Re: Arguments between 13 yr old son & husband
Like the other post said, just wait! You will look back on this time as the good old days. Your son is a 100% normal 13-year-old. Not greeting you is par for the course. It just does not occur to him. One of the less attractive parts of adolescence is the fact that the average kid is totally incapable of seeing the wider picture or looking at things from someone else's point of view. This is not bad behaviour, it is how it is. You get through it by reminding them, probably every time, about what you want from them. In any dealings with them, one person gets the stress, no prizes for guessing which one. You will be a wet rag and the kid will be serene and uncaring. The thing you can do is to remove the angst from the whole equation. Accept that if you want him to pick up, do chores etc, you will have to tell him to do it. Kids do not notice that Mom is tired and could use a hand, they just DO NOT. This is just how it is. It does not mean he is a future criminal. As for the father-son thing, you get that too. It is not that much different from the young bull challenging the old bull in a herd, they WILL lock horns from time to time. Let them go, poor Mom is often worn out becoming the peacekeeper and it doesn't make much difference. As long as there is not abuse happening, they will have to sort out their own boundaries. I had to keep reminding my husband about all this stuff, as he was at boarding school all through that age and had not much experience of this day-to-day stuff. Bottom line, you can have this stuff with or without stress, but you WILL have it.