Nighttime potty training- 4 year old!
My son has been 100% daytime potty trained for almost a year now. He will be 4 in July, but he still wears a diaper to bed. Even during his (rare nowdays) naps, he wears his underwear and we've had no accidents. At night he will stay dry for hours, sometimes get up and go to the potty, sometimes not. Either way (usually it's closer to the morning hours) he goes. And he goes BIG time. There have been times that he has woken up dry and gone potty in the wee hours of the morning, so I tried him in underwear. Big mistake. LOL.
The thing is, I've taken a very mild approach to this, thinking that his body isn't ready to go all night yet. I have, however, had people pressuring me to get him "night trained," telling me to wake him up every so often to force him to go, etc. That just seems cruel to me because we all know how kids need their sleep. So i just put him in a diaper and call it a night. If he wakes up dry and goes, he gets praised. If he soaks his diaper, we don't say a word.
Believe it or not, DH has been a huge proponent of this approach because (I can't tell other people this. LOL) He occasionally wet the bed until he was 8-9. Since Cal is built exactly like him and they have the same body type, I'm inclined to think that this is a purely physiological issue. His bladder just isn't big enough to hold for that long. We have tried limiting his fluid intake near bedtime, but the results don't vary much.
Am I doing the right thing here? Am I scarring him for life or being lazy just giving him the diaper at night? He never poops at night. I am a firm believer in firm discipline where discipline is due, but this seems to me like nothing he has control over. Other people beg to differ, and of course, I'm always second guessing myself. Any similar experiences and advice? He asks for his diaper at night, and the few times he has wanted to be a "Big Boy" and sleep in his underwear, he wets the bed and gets SOOOOO upset. He cries "Sorry mommy, I peed...." though we have never given him any reason to think we'd be mad. I think it's harder on him psycologically to wake up in his own urine than it is to give him a diaper.
Am I being a good mom, or as suggested by other mothers, a lazy one?
DS born 07/05/2003
DD born 3/24/2005