Originally Posted by happymom28
He is 6 years old and frequently has "accidents". He wasn't potty trained until he was 5 1/2, and that was only because, IMO, it was required for kindergarten. He finally has been given a bedtime on school nights (9:30pm), but on weekends he will stay up until he passes out and is able to sleep until noon! My sister and I try to take him for spans, but my sil wants to have him close. I feel like it's doing more harm than good at this point. He's missing out of vital things he needs to grow! He still talks baby talk, barely gets through a day without an accident, his eating habits are terrible, and I could keep going.
I understand your concern but, from what you posted, I don't really see where there is true neglect or abuse. You actually might do more harm than good. Can you imagine what might happen if you would pursue custody of him and it would end up in this huge battle between you and his mom...imagine the added stress this would put on this poor little guy on top of what he is already dealing with. I'm sure he knows his mom is sick and I'm sure he senses things aren't right between his dad and his mom. I think the best thing you can do for him right now is be there as a supportive, caring aunt, hard as that might be. If and when his mom is not around then possibly you could pursue the custody issue if dad is agreeable.