Re: 13 yo giving us trouble
It is like he is not getting enough sleep and may be lacking energy due to the teenage tendancy to consume everything unhealthy at that age. How is his sleep hygiene? How does he sleep? What is his diet like? My brother had a shift like that with puberty and it was strongly linked to his obstructive sleep apnea, which wasn't diagnosed until he was 30.
That age is a hard time. Check out my post, "My take on sleep hygiene" on the sleep disorders board. Also look into sleep disorders in children. Look into counseling or even just trying to get him a confidant.. someone to vent and commiserate with.. try and find out his dreams and desires so that you can steer him there educationally. The twins may be taking a lot of your time and causing resentment issues. There are many things going on and you have to keep a level clear head and be consistant. Lay down some rules, discuss them with him.. get him involved. Then stick to them. All we can do is love them and do our best by them.
Wake up tip: get a container of ballbearing and marbles.. keep them in the freezer. GO to your son.. tell him wake up.. go to the freezer get the tiny ice terrors.. return to your son's room.. lift sheet.. apply liberally... there is no escape, they chase you about the bed thanks to that thing called gravity.. guaranteed screams and bed evacuation quickly. I remember my parents doing that to my brother, it was so fun.. I only experienced it once.
If we learn by our mistakes, I am working on one hell of an education.