I am trying to put my 4 year old dd to bed in descent time. Somehow until I go to bed she would never goes to bed. She asks to drink, to go to the toilet, to change light and so on. Everything seems valid, but she ends up going to bed real late.
Any suggestions are welcome.
I got this idea from "Blue's Clues" and it has totally worked with our kids!!! It's the "Sleepy-Time Check List" I got a clip board and made a list of all the things we needed to do to get ready for bed. I used all this clipart that I found online so they understood what we were doing. Made a box next to each one and had them check off the box when they did it. I put it in order "pj's, potty, washing up, brush teeth, read books, hugs & kisses, light's out. " It totally established a night-time routine and all the requests and stalling stopped. You could use whatever she is into....Dora, Barbie etc to make it fun for her. Hope this is helpful. Good luck
You are the parent....do the routine stuff (the checklist mentioned before is great) and that's that. Tell her she is not to come out of bed again because all the things are taken care of. She's playing a game and you can't join her. Start earlier than you really want her in bed, so by the time she is through with all the routine stuff, it's not that late. Once all the routine stuff is done, then immediately put her back to bed each time she gets up. If she's already had a drink, then tell her she is done...no more! You need to be firm and consistent.
Another thought...is she still napping? Maybe that's why she is getting up because she's had too much sleep during the day. I could never let my four year old nap, she would be up way too late. She goes to sleep as soon as her head hits the pillow. So there's no energy for all that stalling and fooling around.
Above all, don't play her game. Eventually, she'll get bored and realize you are the one in control!!
Then I would try to cut the nap down to like 20 minutes or something. She's over tired at home because she is going to bed late. Then going to bed late is causing her to need to nap. It's just the cycle she is in. You need to get into a better routine so she is going to bed earlier, getting good sleep and perhaps no nap, or just a short nap. I used to call those "get the edge off nap". But if she is staying up late and you don't want her to, then you need to do something about the nap.
When my daughter first gave up naps, she, too, would be extremely tired around 5-6:00. I just had to help her get over that hump (play with her, go outside, etc) and eventually she caught a second wind and was able to make it to bedtime. She feel asleep as soon as her head hit the pillow. I would rather deal with no napping to have an easy and earlier bedtime. But if the daycare requires a nap, then you'll just have to deal with a later bedtime I suppose.
Just FYI...I have a four year old (and they are all different), but she goes to bed 8:15ish and sleeps until 7:00-7:30. She takes no nap. If she did, then she would most likely go to bed around 10 or so and still wake at the same time in the morning. I prefer the early bedtime!!!!!!!!