Re: kids pocket money
My two oldest are also 6 and 4 (actually much closer to 7 and 5). We had been doing the chores thing with allowance. But I had a hard time paying them for things I thought they should be doing anyway because they are part of this family and household. I didn't agree with paying them for clearing the dinner table or feeding the dog, or putting away toys, etc. They should do those things because we asked them to, not because they are getting paid.
So we came up with this for the summer. They are having a quiet time in their room each day and they are getting paid for reading books, writing a story, practicing handwriting, doing math flashcards, etc. I made a chart and they check off each day which of the activities they did. I customized it to their age. For instance, the older one who is reading chapter books is getting 10 cents for reading for 15 minutes. The younger one, who reads very well but not near her sister, is getting 10 cents for reading two books. Math flashcards for my older one is 10 cents. My younger one gets 5 cents for practicing writing her letters. They are putting a check mark next to each activity for a particular day. At the end of the week, we are counting up all the checkmarks and paying accordingly. It's a great way to add money, as well. At the end of each day I'm giving a sticker for staying in their room for the allotted time which is about a half hour or so.
It's also been nice because I visit each individually and spend some one-on-one time with each. We read together or whatever. We've only done it this past week since summer vacation has just started, but my girls LOVE it.
We've explained to them that the other stuff they do, like helping around the house and doing what we ask will get rewards like going for ice-cream or to the park, etc.
I don't know what we'll do when school is back, because I won't pay them for doing homework. Like chores, that's a requirement and shouldn't get paid for. So we'll have to think of something else. Perhaps for extra reading...not sure yet.
But in the meantime, this is working.