Re: problem with # 2
Oh they feel it. They just do not want to take the time and stop and do the job. They would rather run about and play instead. If the child is able to make demands of you clearly and get the point across then they know exactly what they are doing. She knew she was wrong and tried to hide it.. this shows that she was trying to avoid the consequences and continue as usual.
My son would have been spanked for that and put in his room for a long time. His room is just for sleeping.. nothing to play with there except pillows and blanket. This gets the point across real quick. You may try the timer potty schedule. Take her every hour.. make her go.. when she can go on her own and not make mistakes she will not lose ten minutes an hour to the potty. This works for all but the most stubborn children quite well and quickly. If no accidents occur after a week of this schedule.. bump it to every two hours.. then three.. and so on until the child is fully functional on their own. At four they can go in the potty and wipe there own bottom. Just beware of the desire to wipe and flush half the roll of toilet paper. Mine tried to flush a whole roll still on the roll when he was two.. and the thought of his little voice telling me,"Mommy car get stuck in hole." Still gives me shivers.
If we learn by our mistakes, I am working on one hell of an education.