Child with emotional special needs?
Hello! I have a situation in my home that I don't know how to handle. I am a divorced mother of three. (Ages 3,5, and 8). My boyfriend and his daughter have lived with us for almost one year. (She is 4). This is my problem...
This little four year old is a very smart and sweet little girl, however, I believe she has emotional problems or something of the sort. She is unable to entertain herself and follows me around all day everyday. She seems to need my constant approval. If one of my children does something good and I compliment them she is right there repeating what they just did to get a compliment too. (It's not that I never give her praise either - it's just that she seems to need ALL the praise.) She constantly needs to inform me of what my children are doing -I DON'T CARE!!!! She also likes to tattle on them - little things that don't matter. She is VERY BOSSY also.
Recently I've caught her physically hurting my three year old and saying things to her like "I hate you" and "Your soo stupid" when she doesn't think that I can see or hear her. My eight year old has noticed this and it drives her crazy - she spends ALOT of time at her dad's house ( my ex lives 2 blocks away) because she gets followed around alot too and wants to be left alone. I don't blame her for not wanting to be here.
I'm afraid to say anything to my boyfriend in fear of hurting his feelings. Plus, instead of listening to my feelings and concerns I know he'll go on the defensive and attack me by critisizing my children. (I don't think he likes my five year old very much - he has no patience with her.) About one month ago his daughter pushed my three year old off the outside play tower (About 5 feet) on purpose. I told him about it and he did nothing. If roles were reversed he would of yelled big time at one of my kids. He has spanked my three year old before but yet I've never seen him do any form of punnishment on his child.
I am very frustrated!!! If this "Blended" style of living arrangement continues does anyone think that it will cause harm on my children? I know it has me stressed. What should I do?