Single Mom with one child going away to college
I am a single mom of a wonderful 17 year old son. He has been accepted to college 2 states away. He is excited about going and we are busy making all the plans and filling out all the forms required to get everything finalized. I have always encouraged him to go away to school (I did and it was a great experience) and I am so proud of him and his accomplishments!
However, he is my only child and I am feeling the expected pull in 2 directions. I truly do want him to go and have this wonderful experience. I believe that our jobs as parents are to prepare our children to be responsible, productive adults, and that it is normal and healthy for him to develop a life of his own. When he hesitated about going away, I got him to admit it was because he was worried about leaving me alone. I have had some very serious health issues and have been hospitalized several times. But I told him to please go ahead and plan his future and don't worry about me because I am tough and will be just fine! But I am feeling the tug on my emotions. I told him that I did feel this, but that it was normal and not to think I wanted him to stay with me. I plan to move the next state over, so I will be somewhat nearby (2 1/2 hours away) but still far enough away to let him have his life. Plus, I have always dreamed of moving to that area and the fact that he will be nearby is a big plus.
Does anyone have advice on how to keep busy in my own life so I don't spend my time pining away over missing my (grown-up) baby? We obviously are extremely close due to it only being the 2 of us, but I think I need to find my own things to do so I don't accidentally cling to him and hold him back. I am currently in a casual relationship that will end when I move, but I would like some suggestions on how to keep busy and also how to meet new people in a new state.