Re: Why does my 8 yr old son cry so much...
I agree with jozi209. My son is eight, and a few months ago it was the same thing with him. Everything made him cry. I asked him if he wanted crackers, he said no, I asked if he wanted something else and he started crying.
I have a hard time saying this, but here goes. I truly believe in some ways I was stressing my son out. I was very stressed myself and unintentionally, he got the tail end of it. I was very short and abrupt with him, I didn't really want to be bothered. So when he comes to talk to me, he's stressed. And we have talked about it since, and these are his thoughts on the matter: He knows I'm tired and sick (I have a thyroid problem, hence the irritability, which i didnt know about at the time) so he doesn't want to upset me or make me in pain. So when he comes to me and says, mom can I.... nevermind... its not that he's being rude or weird or difficult, it's that he truly doesn't want to bother me because he loves me.
Not saying it has anything to do with you, it might not. I do suggest however, when he is calm, to talk to him. I can't talk to my son when he's upset and crying. He says the same thing, that he doesn't know why. So, give him some time to calm down, get him a drink, take him to wash his face and just console him. I try to distract him also so that he stops. Or I tell him to breathe and calm down. He says he can't, but I tell him that he can if he wants to, he just has to think hard enough about stopping, and he will. When he's calm, ask him gentle questions about if anything is bothering him or why he's so sad all the time. He may tell you, he may not.
Another suggestion is maybe there are problems outside the home that are bothering him such as friends, maybe even the grades at school. At this age, school work attributes for a large part of their self-esteem. My son also told me that the reason he gets so mad at people and doesn't want to play with them is because they annoy him and that he thinks they are immature. He walks home from school and he came home one day crying and head hanging so low it was pathetic! I asked him what was wrong, but it was the well known "nothing". I simply told him that when he's ready, to come talk to me and he did a few minutes later and told me the whole story. It was due to teasing and feeling like nobody liked him.
Also, last one I promise, he could write in a feelings book. That's what we call it. When my son is mad, sad, or anything, he is given the option to write in his feeling book. He doesn't always want to at the time, but I see him take it and write in it later!! It helps them to get out whatever they are feeling in a private way. Sometimes they are ashamed or embarrassed to tell us, so let him think that you won't read it, and when he's not around, read it. I only say that because he is still 8 and you need to know what is going on with your son.
I hope some of those things can help. My son has gotten better by using most of these techniques.