I am really freaked out over this. My daycare provider called me today and said that my daughter spilled some milk. When she turned around to pick up the glass my daughter said "Miss M, are you going to beat me?" Miss M said "No! Of course not. It's ok". Daughter said "My mom beats me when I mess up." Miss M said "Ok, but I don't think that's true A. You don't need to say that, ok?" My daughter told her that I put a bruise on her face (the puppy did it) and told her that I beat her everyday. Asked her if she could stay with her because I beat her.
Now, do I spank her butt now and then? Sure. But BEAT? Wow. I don't even know where to begin. She had said this stuff once before, maybe 4 or 5 months ago and me & the daycare lady laughed it off, infront of my daughter. I even asked my child in front of the daycare lady "A, do I beat you?" She laughed and said no.
If any of the other parents heard this, it could be serious. I remember once talking w/ the other parents at a gathering and told them that A acted a fool in Walmart and I was going to beat her butt, and A yelled out "Mama, don't beat me". At the time everyone got a kick out of it but if she is truly acting like it's happening, I could be in serious trouble.
I've explained a lie and the truth to her and she is VERY smart and VERY dramatic...but she understands the difference.
I don't know what in the world to do to make her understand that she cannot say stuff like this.
"Now, do I spank her butt now and then? Sure." "I remember once talking w/ the other parents at a gathering and told them that A acted a fool in Walmart and I was going to beat her butt, and A yelled out "Mama, don't beat me"."
It sounds if she's getting the whole idea straight from you! I would be much more careful how you speak to your child, and think about what message you are sending to your child.
I personally, would never threaten to "beat" any of my childrens "butts", in private, public or anywhere else. I have raised lots of kids into wonderful people, and never found the need, or desire, to spank any of them.
For her to understand not to say such things, you must not say them first! Good luck
I've never said that in anger...but still maybe me saying it at all has caused some of this? I appreciate the feedback. I do "spank" her when necessary but normally it's a smack on her hand or a swat on the behind. I don't beat her, abuse her or threaten her. I never would. But she's 3 and I have to remember that.
Kids do say the darndest things! I'll share a little story about my youngest son (who is now 14).
When he was in kindergarden, we were taping something up with duct tape, and we stuck a piece over his mouth. We all laughed as he pranced around trying to talk with the tape over his mouth, very cute.
By the next day, the residue of the duct tape collected dirt from the playground, and by the end of the day, there was a big square of dirt around his mouth that wouldnt wash off. The teacher asked why he had the square of dirt on his face, and he said "my mom taped my mouth shut last night". Off to the nurses office... I just about died when I heard that!
This is one of our families funny stories, and at three, you have many more ahead of you. I think I was a little hard on you in my first post, I'm sorry.