I'm going to make a long story short because I'm kind of upset right now.
My husband's best friend has a 7 year old daughter and we have a 6 year old, and these two play with each other very often. This girl is very provoking and likes to purposely irritate my daughter. For example, when my daughter is over HER house, Kelly(her friend) often starts and pick fights by calling her names. My daughter (Maria) would come home to tell me things Kelly says to her, but I didn't really pay much mind to it because we are such good friends with their family, I attributed the behavior to be normal kid stuff but it seems to be getting out of hand. The other night, Kelly was singing "Maria is stupid, Maria is ugly" like making up songs....and putting my daughter down. Maria was upset when she came home and told me this and also said Kelly had pushed her. I finally stepped up to the plate and texted the girl's father telling him that if she doesn't stop this behavior, Maria isn't allowed to play with her. BTW, Kelly never wants to come over here because she can't dominate here, that's the feeling I'm getting. My husband AND her father disagree with me and thinks that kids will be kids...and that what her daughter IS DOING IS NORMAL and he doesn't even pay attention to it? We were discussing this in person today. I said "well I don't care if it's kids or not she's 7 and old enough to know that saying those things isn't a nice thing to do to your friend. I told her parents that she(kelly) has to say sorry to my daughter in order to be friends with her again. My husband thinks I'm overreacting. I'm making this thread because I want to know if you readers think that I am over reacting? Do kids really do this stuff? That's bad for a little kids psyche for their good friend to be singing songs saying she's stupid and ugly don't you think?? I can't believe her father THINKS this is NORMAL?
Comments or criticism is welcome