Re: 2 year old extreme behavior
Could it be the child is having adjustment issues? How is the older sibling adapting to the new environment? I am certain that at first,, it was a novelty to have a new home, new routine, new toys, new rules, etc, but as it became more routine than novelty, behavior undoubtedly will change. I would try a little one on one and even try to make a party atmosphere of some special activity to make the adjustment a fun experience. Some children do better with praise than punishment. Even at two years old, it is acceptable to give a choice. For instance of what to wear among two choices, or a choice of two games to play. Giving a little of the decision making may make the child more confident and hopefully compliant to other rules. Structure is a big thing to children, as is being consistent. A regular bedtime ritual, having dinner with the whole family, and sharing time with your children all help with shaping a child's behavior. Getting the children involved in the day to day activities, even if it takes them a little longer to do something or maybe not to your standards, gives them a sesne of accomplishment and cohesiveness. Seeing that this is a new role for you and your spouse, it takes time to make adjustments like these. It will not happen overnight. Try to be patient as the children try to find their place in your family. Best of luck to you all.