Well I slightly disagree. My 20 month old has no problem sleeping in a toddler bed and never gets out and when she needs me she calls out, "MOMMY! MOMMY!" And I go to her and she falls right back asleep. I feel that shows I have instilled enough security in her that she feels safe enough to sleep alone. My first child who is 3 1/2 as I said, slept in my bed a lot when she was an infant and into age one. She was always put down in her crib though. She has some fear of being alone in her bed yet she is not alone in her room since her sister and her share one. And now that she sees that her little sister is taking on the toddler bed she is getting mad, but won't sleep there still. I feel at 3 1/2 years old she is old enough to sleep unattended in her own bed in her own room. I do not feel she will think I love her less or have a low IQ for it and that she needs to understand that Mommy and Daddy have their room and their space and vice versa. I have explained that I am right there if she needs me and all she has to do is tell me, but she needs to be a big girl and stay in her bed. I have even tried lying down with her in her room until she is asleep which works until 3AM when she realizes I went back to mine. I mean this girl goes poddie in the middle of the night by herself, you know, turns on the light, goes, wipes, flushes, puts lid down and turns the light off and all, but will not sleep alone.
So now what?
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Marie
[This message has been edited by lovelyme (edited 10-24-2002).]
When and HOW do I make her stay in HER bed!!!??? 
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