needing help with daughter that wont go to bed - Parenting Issues Message Board

nat12345 · 12-27-2002, 10:52 PM

I need some advice from other parents...i have a 19 month old daughter who will never go to sleep. when she is at her fathers house or grandmas house she will go to sleep just fine but always puts up a fight with me it takes hours for her to sleep all she wants to do is cry and cry and cry. i ahve tried everything i could think of and nothing helps. i am in desprete need of advice.

momma2boys · 12-28-2002, 09:25 AM

How does her father and grandmother get her to sleep as compared to you? Do they just lay her in a crib and let her fall asleep? I babysit for my niece and if I put her in the crib she cries for about 2 seconds then falls right to sleep. At home they have to rock her forever, etc to get her to sleep. The difference- she knows if she cries at home they will get her out. Kids are very smart as far as knowing who they can get away with stuff. The other thing Im wondering is do you work and she is away from you alot? Maybe she is just having a hard time seperating from you in the time she does have. I was never able to put my kids in bed and let them cry, but maybe you can , I finally did it at 3 and 5. good luck.

nat12345 · 12-28-2002, 03:34 PM

Thank you very much for your advice! No i am not away from her at all. I stay hoome with her and always have. Her Father and grandmother put her to bed the same as me. I usually let her cry to sleep in the last few months, because it is too the point where it is getting rediculous. She sometimes screams as though she is being murderd or tourcherd, And i dont know what will help. So maybe it is time to get some medical advice. I cant do it antmore on my own. Thank you very much for your help.

momma2boys · 12-29-2002, 03:13 PM

I still think all kids should just come with off switches for nighttime. My sons are 4 and 6 and bedtime was nothing but a hassle until the last couple months. With my niece she would scream and struggle the whole time I was rocking her so I finally said "if youre going to scream while Im holding you, you can scream in the crib". If it makes you feel any better, out of all of my friends with kids none of them has ever had it easy putting them to bed. How long does she scream for once you put her down? good luck, hang in there.

puggers · 01-07-2003, 07:02 PM

Yipes..my son is grown and out..but let me think back.
We had a bedtime ritual, meaning, bedtime was at a certain time, we read a story, then a kiss and lights out..when he was really young about 1 to 2 he would cry or get out of bed..but he was allowed to cry
(I know its heartbreaking) himself to sleep. It was tough, but if he cries and you come, he's learning when he cries he gets what he wants.
Remember, this too will pass!