ticked off and not the parent - Parenting Issues Message Board

LookingForHealth · 02-22-2003, 01:18 AM

ok I am the nanny and not the mom therefore I am in a stupid position. this 15 month old, strong and chubby, has a total fit each time the poop diaper needs to be changed. she makes it impossible for me to hold her down and also to put the new diaper on. she will arch her back (add the shrieking screams), kick her legs and arms, and most annoyingly will turn to either side so that i cant put on the new diaper. today she had a total fit and was screaming like crazy and the mom finally comes in and says what did you do to her. why do moms always say that??????? have they ever thought about the kid having a total fit and the adult with them has NOT done anything bad to them? she has the same fits for her own mom when its diaper time too. basically she hates it then. sorry this is not properly written...........how can i hold her down better than 'holding her down' which in turn looks abusive even though i am not holding hard. i know that if i dont get the damn diaper on she will go diarrhea or pee all over the place if i turn my back for 1 second. i told the mom that she did this diarrhea on herself thing twice so far, all because she wouldnt let me put on the diaper (the fight to stay naked). how can this mom understand that if she wants me to get the diaper on, i have to hold her down and let her scream? why does she always run into the room and pick her up to hug her? that is telling the kid that it is good to throw a fit and you get a reward for doing it, and you dont have to listen to nanny.......am i supposed to not put her diaper on or something just because she screams?! ridiculous.

LookingForHealth · 02-22-2003, 05:48 PM

Anybody?

Is the best thing to do -- confront them (we ALL know she does this) when they get home one day like 'you know she just would not let me put a diaper on, and after the bath there is just too much risk she will go poo all over the place if i dont get it on quickly. how do you suggest i get it on her without her freaking out?'

bruised · 02-23-2003, 05:35 PM

Looking...I have a question.Is the mom home when you nanny?If so,why should you have to change the child if the mom is home?I know you get paid for this stuff but I just can't understand why parents hire nannies when their home?Are they lazy to raise their own child or what and have to pay someone to do it?I work with a woman who has a live in nanny/babysitter for 6/7 days a week.Her kids are 8 and 6 yrs old and has babysat them since they were born.The mom feels she would rather work to have "her" time then raise her kids.When she wants alone time with hubby their shipped to babysitters for the weekend.The mom doesn't wake up with the girls before school,doesn't feed them breakfast,doesn't take them to school,doesn't pick them up,doesn't tuck them in,doesn't cook dinner,doesn't give them baths,doesn't do laundry,doesn't do housework or the shopping.The nanny/babysitter does it all for a lousy 100$canadian week!On her days off,she does what she wants by herself and doesn't include her kids.WHY HAVE KIDS!!!if you can't take the responsibility for your actions!I had to vent sorry,but it quite ticks me off.

N2golf · 02-23-2003, 06:15 PM

I would find someone else to Nanny for!

LookingForHealth · 02-24-2003, 02:05 AM

OMG that woman you described sounds horrendous. There's no way she can call herself the mom, she doesnt DO anything for them or do anything with them.

This family is wonderful and most of the time the kids are great too. BUT that diaper thing ughhhh. Tonight she was doing it to the dad and inside I was lmao. I think I saw him lightly smack her butt and kept saying stop it, and everything imaginable to say to that behavior. It's so lame, why does she fight something she knows must go on her, and it does not hurt. Why don't they hold her down by pinning her legs lightly? Why let her win? If he can't even get her to stop, how am I supposed to?
Honestly if it were my kid I would have started to discipline from the moment the screaming, rolling over kicking frenzy began. Spank, say no, etc. Why always say 'its just a baby.' I think this 15 month old 'baby' is smarter than everyone thinks.......