does anyone elses kid hve them really stressed out? I MEAN REALLY? - Parenting Issues Message Board

niecsey · 03-11-2003, 09:24 AM

Hi too long of a story to go into unless anyone else is going through same thing........ daughter 7 nightmare, brilliant at school but a nightmare at home and out makes me feel physically and mentally ill anyone else? she was a brill baby slept all night from born never cried approached 2 and that was it

very dominent, loud and sometimes impossible other child a son no trouble ever l feel totally drained right now my hearts racing my head is thumping and l feel shaky please if anyone else is going through this or something similar please post to me l will be grateful thank you

ps. l used to be able to 'put up with it' but after 5 yrs its making me ill its really getting me down also its not constant she seems to be like this for a few weeks then maybe l will get a little break before it starts again l will post more info if l have any replies thanx

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Piperdreams · 03-11-2003, 11:27 AM

Hi:

I have a 2.5 year old daughter that drains the life out of me most of the time. She is very intelligent, has a sense of humor, and bilingual. When she decides to be sweet it is wonderful to be around her. On the other hand, she is a very strong willed child-my way or the high way attitude-, manipulative, persistent, very loud, and easily excitable. It is a difficult task to deal with her on a daily basis. I work part-time so that I can spend more time with her while she is growing up but lately I am seriously considering taking a full-time job mainly because of her. I totally understand what you are going through. By the way, I am nice but firm with her and donot give in to her strong personality. I have to add that she is also a loving and caring child but it seems like she just cannot help but exercise her strong personality on me.

Piper

Marie55 · 03-11-2003, 12:58 PM

Ob boy, I can relate to both of you. I have a suggestion for you both that I wish someone had suggested to me long time ago because a strong willed child does not change easy, even when 40 years old.

Please both of you see a counselor to find out what is the root of the problem. Your life will me easier and your daughters will be happier with themselves.

Many times the first child does not move over very easy when another child is born and they go into overdrive to make life miserable for you. Many times giving extra one on one time is not always the answer either.

Good luck on finding out what is movitating your children to behave in this manner. Could be something very simple that would be easily corrected.

Wish I had known what to do 40 years ago. If you think you have problems now, wait until they are older, and still older. I have more than my share of grey hair due to my oldest daughter, other four children did their share but nothing to compare to the strongwilled oldest child.

Marie

niecsey · 03-11-2003, 01:52 PM

Hi thanx for your replys

my daughter is the 2nd born had she been the first lol she would of been the only

lol like l said she was the most contented baby ever no problems the problem started when she was approaching 2..... it all started off with a little red coat.................................... .............

she wouldnt wear anything but this coat and that set the way she behaved .......... l have went for a few months without any problems but when they start they surely start....... have to do this in 2 parts cant reply! lol

niecsey · 03-11-2003, 01:53 PM

like your children mine is also very intelligent and we have lots of things at home for her to use and keep her occupied if im honest lol reminds me of the mother in law

lol stubborn, dominating (glad l dont see her much)

lm relaxed now gave myself a little rest and she went to a friends to play....... ive tried ignoring her when shes been impossible but she really lets me know that me ignoring her isnt gonna go away lol one thing ive learnt is if i threaten to put her to bed she hates it....... and 9/10 times l WILL get a result, l do not smack her prefer to be verbal but l can hardly put her to bed when im out and about she too is very excitable ive actually only put her to bed on 3 or 4 occasions as l believe if i do this everytime she will get immune to it lol hard work been a mum eh? l love and worship the ground she walks on maybe shes spoilt........l dont know lm hoping shes gonna grow out of it **** help me if shes the same in her teenage years

lol keep posting girls and hopefully others will join in and maybe we can help each other...... l even thought maybe she had ahdh(i think thats it lol) but looking at sites she hasnt l suppose we all have different characters and unfortunately lol this is what weve got........feeling alot better now thanx again girls keep posting

sorry if this reappears im having problems posting this