Nayrb

If you are interested in reading this note please read it all and slowly because we really need help with this! Hi. Our daughter is 15 . For some reason for the last 3 years my wife and myself has become morons in her eyes. If your a parent of a teenage kid I probally don't have to say no more. Anyways the problem we encountered tonight was our daught was to bring her "first" new first boyfriend to the house for pizza then we were to drop then off at a movies. My daughter met with her boyfriend after he was dropped off (in our town) and then they went somewhere besides straight back to the house. They were 1 hour late. (pizza was here at 5;30 they never got her till 6:30) Ok now for the second part of this problem. We told our dughter about 2 weeks ago that if she brings her boyfriend to the house sometime we don't want her and him to go into her room to spend time. Well , as soon as they come into the house our dughter took him straight to her room. I went to her room about 15 minutes later and I asked them to both come upstairs for some pizza and neither wanted any(probally just too embarasses to eat in front of us) About 30 miutes later I went to the room and asked our daughter to show her b/f our pet. ( trying to pass the hint to our daught it was time to exit the room). But still she refused and told her b/f how stupid that sounds . I think my wife was ready to blow a fuse because of our dughters disrespect. My daughter has the internet in her room. She doesn't know this but I have installed spy software ( a parent has to do what a parent has to do) I don't want to spy on her activities but we are at the end of our rope with her disrespect and lies. I have enough evidence saved to make her throwup if I was to show her what we have learned. This is the only way into our daughters head, trust me!(even though you don't know me) She claims we are the problem in her life,and we never let her do this or that. Our daughter will not(she refuses) to out her dinner plates in the dishwasher or garbag in the garbage. She sticks her gum anywhere she pleases when she is finished with it. It is common for us to unstick used gum 12 times a week from various places around the house. Tonight when she was in her room with her b/f they were lighting off caps ( with 2 coins) I didn't go in to tell them to stop ( fire) because I didn't want her to become embarrased by it and make us out to look like inbasiles beind our backs to her b/f. ( common sense should have been with her at the time anyways) What should we do?? If we talk to our daughter about any type of a concern that we may have, she ALLWAYS turns around and faces away from us. And she WILL NOT turn and face us of look at us. Believe it or no but this disrespectful,uncaring,mouthy,little brat is a honour student in highschool. I have been taking accurate reading most nights form out water meter and she uses in average 45 gallons of water a night for a bath and a shower. And then she always washes her hair in the morning and the average usage of water for her hair only is 25 gallons. We have tried reasoning with her on every angle to conserve water but she refuses to cooperate. Every towel and every drawer she uses is left open or on the floor. School mornings are just as disasterous! We also have a 13 year old daughter that tells us that tshe doesn't want to be left alone with her because she threatens her all the time. Just for the record, we have never beat,spanked,humiliated or torchered our dughter to deserve any of this back in return. We are only guilty of love,shring and trust. HONEST! Thank you so much for any help.