working moms vs. stay at home moms - Parenting Issues Message Board

Im_Robyn · 05-16-2003, 04:06 PM

I have a little problem I have to debate on the opposing side for 'Men being the bread winners and woman staying home with the children'. I really dont have an opion either way I think it would be great for moms to stay home with thier children while their husbands worked but I also find it perfectly acceptabel for mothers to work to help support the family.

I am having a hard time seeing it one way only and thats what I have to do. Since this is just for a school assignment I wouldnt be too upset if no one wants to comment but I would really appreciate any help on this.
Robyn

sweetescape02 · 05-17-2003, 12:59 PM

I am a stay at home mom to an extent. I stay home during the day while my hubby is at work (Air Force) and then when he gets home, I coach my oldest daughter's soccer team and after that, I have my yoga class that I instruct, which only lasts an hour.

I think if you can financially swing it, staying home is best. Financially, we are more than able to do it and I do not want my little ones raised by strangers. I do have a degree and in a few years, when all my kids are in school full time, I will put it to use but right now I am a mom and I love being able to be with my kids all the time.

I don't think there's anything wrong with mothers that work, either. Sometimes, it takes two incomes to support the family. Sometimes a mom plays both roles and there is no other option than to work. And then there are some women who just need a break from the kids for awhile and work part time.

Just my personal preference....

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NewMe · 05-17-2003, 01:32 PM

I have two precious and extremely well behaved boys.
One 13, one 6.
I worked from the time my oldest was 6 wks. I was young when i had him, just turned 19 by 4 days when he arrived.
My youngest, born when i was 26, I stayed home with him, and am still at home.
BIG DIFFERENCE IN THEM, i base most of it on the differences of being raised.
I TOTALLY believe in, staying at home with the lil ones. Im going to eventually look for pt morning work, so that i can continue to be home when they arrive after school.
Just my two cents

Im_Robyn · 05-18-2003, 12:27 AM

Thank you very much for your inputs. But what I actually need to debate about is, why woman should work and not stay home and have the man support the family. I dont really feel this way I support both sides but I have to do this stupid pointless assignment for school. So if anyone could give me some ideas on what to stay about working moms that makes them sound better then stay at home moms I would really appreciate it. I have been hitting my mom up for some ideas but I'm sure I will need more. I hate debating!!
Robyn

kelly4 · 05-18-2003, 04:20 PM

Some woman need to help support the family in this time and age it is hard to survive on one income. Many woman have worked very hard to get there career started and are not willing to give this up when starting a family. Also woman feel that if they take time off from work they will lose there position and most go back. Some woman are not meant to be stay at home mom I think some woman just donthave the patience to stay home. I hope this help you a little.