Troublesome 5 year old ... - Parenting Issues Message Board

SmileWithMe · 10-21-2003, 03:23 PM

I have a five year old daughter who is going through some sort of emotional change. She's weepy, bossy, cranky, sassy ... Punishments don't work with this kid. Take something away? So what. Ground her? Oh well. Time out? Whatever. Good old fashioned swat on the bottom? No way. (Unfortunately, I have flash backs to BEING this same child. My poor mother.)

I love her, but don't like the way she's behaving at all. I'm sure it's just a phase. The question is: How does a mom deal with it?!

Thanks for your help.

Want 2 B Well · 10-21-2003, 07:24 PM

Eventually you get immune. I have 2 girls 7 & 12. Not only do they do that stuff to me but to each other as well. (God help me) Listen up as I do have something that will help you...
On the relationship board I was talking about my "HUG THERAPY" I developed 2 yrs ago. My older dd was driving me INSANE and there was NOTHING I could do to punish her so I started to HUG her, tell her I love her, etc...
She would start complaining and I would "go after her" to hug her. She runs away. But I chase her down and HUG HER ANYWAY!!! Let me tell you...you just would not believe the difference.
Its been 2yrs and still going strong. She is a much happier preteen, soon to be a teen in April.
OY!
Now the 7yo, OY, I just try to give more love than yelling or punishment.

SmileWithMe · 10-22-2003, 07:25 AM

Beautiful idea!

Thanks for your response!

nolamama · 10-22-2003, 10:52 AM

That is a wonderful, sweet idea Want 2Be Well! I do firmly believe that the positive treatment kids get, the more positively they will behave--it's human nature!