Behavior problems 6 year old girl - Parenting Issues Message Board

Dawn27 · 10-19-2003, 06:17 PM

I have a six and nine year old both girls. My youngest has been bring home red tickets (which is bad) against her from school. Where she does not listen. Shes very disobeidant (however thats spelled). The bus driver talked to me the other day about her being suspended off the bus. Course i asked what about. This girl is 6 years old and lip locking boys. He said shes done it to about 5 boys. Which he failed to tell me before but only gave me one warning to talk to her. That was it. Now shes been coming home talking about sex. Making statements shes going to have sex with this little boy on the bus. I do think my oldest daughter has pushed her on to do this. Even though the bus driver says shes good on the bus (the oldest). I watched my oldest repeatively push the youngest to kiss her half brother. I am very worried about this. Anyone have any ideas?

Ive talked to her about acting like a little lady on the bus, and how we dont kiss boys.. Now her and her sister I had to separate them from rooms because they like getting naked and looking at each other all the time now. So I stopped that, but I cant seem to get it through her head about boys.. Why is kids learning so quickly at such a early age??

I also, caught her talking to her sister about the boys private parts too. Anyone else have this problem?

She's going to be taking to a phycologist soon because of her behavior problems (jumping ontop the teachers desk, throwing papers off of it, screaming for no reason, crying loudly and getting everyones attention, punching, and biting. She also has dug crayons into the carpet and hates to do anything the teacher tells her to do, digging huge holes in the walls using it for play imagination soup.. yeah I didnt know what to think of that one!! good thing I caught her before she tried to eat it). I try to be very patient with her and always make her feel she can tell me anything. It just breaks my heart shes learning such things so soon.

kslittledevil · 10-19-2003, 07:21 PM

I have a problem with my 3 year old being too smart for her own good. When she starts school ( I'm hoping to get her into a magnet school or a private ) I'm going to have to ask the teachers to push her and give her extra work to occupy her time.
I don't know if this is the answer for her as far as the classroom goes. She has probably picked up things from your oldest daughter and has learned things that she shouldn't know now. As far as the bus is concerned you might try talking to the driverand ask for your second daughter to be placed right behind her or near her or the bus monitor ( if this driver has one ) and let her know the consequences for bad behavior. However, on the same token reward her for good behavior ( i.e. no red slips that day earns some type of reward, or a sticker on a chart and a certain amount of stickers ( 10 stickers earns a dollar, extra playtime, a small toy, or a little bit of candy ). This is probably going to be trial and error. Another thing you can do is enlist the oldest daughter's help. Let her know that you don't approve of the youngest daughter's behavior and if the oldest is caught encouraging her sister, their will be consequences for that.
You might also want to talk with the principal of the school and let him/ her know that you were upset about the fact that you were not made aware of the second daughter's behavior on the bus until it was almost too late.
I hope this helps.

TerryB · 10-19-2003, 07:32 PM

It sounds like you really need professional help to figure out this child. I suspect that things have not been right with this child and you hoped that school would straighten her out. She could have ADHD for example. Don't go into denial now. She needs you to help her and the only way that you are going to do this real well would be to find out how her brain really works. It's tough accepting that your child is different but that is the beginning of hope generally.

Certainly try the advice that others give you here while you are waiting for professional help. I would consider taking her right off the bus if the bus driver can't control her. On our bus the youngest kids have to sit up front. Your child could be picking up things from older kids.

Want 2 B Well · 10-19-2003, 08:06 PM

This is more than just a behavior problem. Something has happened to her that was unpleasant. She is trying to get your attention by being outrageous.
Her acting out is a cry for help.

I don't want to jump to conclusions but I would not be suprised to find out she was/is being molested. The behavior is just so "out there" for a 6yo girl.

I hope this is not true & you get her some help quick.

jboon · 10-19-2003, 08:18 PM

originally posted by want 2 b well:

"This is more than just a behavior problem. Something has happened to her that was unpleasant. She is trying to get your attention by being outrageous.
Her acting out is a cry for help.
I don't want to jump to conclusions but I would not be suprised to find out she was/is being molested. The behavior is just so "out there" for a 6yo girl.

I hope this is not true & you get her some help quick."

The first thought that crossed my mind was the same as want 2 b well. I encourage you to seek professional help for your daughter. Good luck, and please keep us posted.