Re: Feeling sorry for myself
Your plate is over full! A suggestion would be that you have one or two family nights a week. YOu turn off the tv, don't answer the phone. YOu play games with the kids or go for a walk, but it's family time. Explain in a calm vocie that you understand his need to wrok and that he feels guilt, but you and the kids have need also. He doesn't want his kids to grow up without a father.
If you think the work is and escape, get him to a counselor. Check with your county health department to get low priced care. But get him seen to work through some of the issues.