| | Part of a secret society on another planet and sex with imaginary boys???
So my stepdaughter is 14 and diagnosed ADHD and earlier this year I found letters and journals she wrote that were very sexually explicit in nature. I told my DH that it wasn't normal and he needed to do something, but he's very passive and "doesn't know what to do", so he does nothing. He doesn't like to face things and just hopes problems go away (he is ADD.
A few weeks later one of her friend's mother calls concerned because she heard that my SD might be pregnant, had been sleeping with boys and hasn't had her period in months. I told her that none of it was true and that the child lies, exaggerates, makes up stories and an overall over active imagination. I think my DH should have taken the call, but that's another story.
We tried to confront SD about the situation and she denied everything!!! We told her about the call and the journals and she denied and tried to dance her way around everything. Well, to try to make a long story short, she came up with this thing about how she belongs to a secret society on another planet- The Agency. They are some kind of dream warriors who save people from dying in their sleep and the 2 boys she was telling her friends she was having sex with are from this world. I thought she was kidding and asked her if she meant that this whole thing was just something she made up or pretended she said "no, it's real." She was dead serious too. I just couldn't believe it!!! My dad is Paranoid Schizophrenic so I feel like I've got pretty good experience.
She said that she doesn't know anyone else who belongs to this organization and that she's not supposed to talk about it. She has always had a problem distinguishing between fantasy and reality. There have been many other instances where her behavior has been questionable but this was up there. As I stated, she has ADHD and most of the issues associated with it: immature, few friends and the ones she has seem to have their own issues, poor social skills and socially awkward, can't relate to her peers, little to no common sense but yet very bright academically.
I did mention to DH that she might be bi-polar or schitzo but that's as far as I want to take it because he still blames me for him putting her on meds for the ADHD. Does any of this sound like some sort of mental illness? BTW, her bio mom has had postpartum depression with all 4 of her kids, has taken meds for her own depression and anger issues with my SD (when SD was an infant no less), and been in some kind of hospital for suicidal thoughts/threats.