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Old 03-02-2011, 05:28 PM   #1
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Am I over reacting?

today my daughters 7th grade teacher (during a science discussion about reproduction) told the entire class that 3 girls in 8th grade last year got pregnant.

I'm about to call the school to complain... please tell me if I'm over reacting.. I've very disappointed.. my daughter had no idea about this happening and I wish this teacher would have kept her mouth shut..

 
Old 03-02-2011, 08:35 PM   #2
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Re: Am I over reacting?

Why do you have a problem with this? It seems like a timely warning for kids to know that sex is risky even at their age. She didn't name the girls or lie about it, did she?

 
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Re: Am I over reacting?

I'm not sure why you have a problem with this. Do you prefer that everyone buries their head in the sand and pretend it's not going on? That doesn't help anyone with anything. It's much more effective to tell the kids that they need to be careful and they need to be responsible or else there are major consequences.

If anything, I would call the school and thank them for being frank with the kids so they know what can happen.

 
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The thin and fine line between parent and teacher is getting smaller! I think as a parent you should be able to choose when your child gets certain information. Kids are growing up way too fast today because some parents do not monitor them or the information they are looking at. Schools teaching about sex is a bad idea. They make it seem clinical. How you act around your child(ren) with a spouse/partner, it sets precedent for how your child(ren) view sex. There are so many ways to introduce sex to teens, and different age groups. Ultimately, I agree that teacher should never have given personal information like that to a class. I don't care if names were not said aloud. I care that youre upset by it and should have the right to not allow our children to be taught certain things at school! I would love to hear an update on what you did, please.

 
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I actually think that this teacher may have stepped on some Hippa laws here. I don't see why she had to bring these girls into the discussion in the first place. Other examples could have been used via books, films etc. of other girls who have gotten pregnant as teens, and she still could of gotten the same message across. How do we know those three girls wanted to be used in the teachers "lesson" ?? ...janiee

 
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I actually think that this teacher may have stepped on some Hippa laws here. I don't see why she had to bring these girls into the discussion in the first place. Other examples could have been used via books, films etc. of other girls who have gotten pregnant as teens, and she still could of gotten the same message across. How do we know those three girls wanted to be used in the teachers "lesson" ?? ...janiee
In which case the mother of the 3 young ladies may have an issue. Not the poster. And unless the school was treating these young women for their pregnancy, I don't see how any Hippa laws have been violated. I guess she could have used other national statistics, but instead she chose to hit it closer to home.

I think you're over reacting. I don't see this being any different than a school having an assembly to educate children about bullying.

 
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Old 10-16-2011, 09:23 PM   #7
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Re: Am I over reacting?

OK ok, I get it... Let me explain.
I am an undergraduate science teacher and I do understand what that teacher was doing. GRANTED not her smartest plan, but she did have a point. I come from a large city up north and when I got to high school I noticed that half of my eight grade class wasn't there and I knew why. Half of my eight grade class was female and they were ALL pregnant. I was one of the few who wasn't having sex (on my own accord anyway) and I wasn't pregnant. Was this teacher wrong, well, yes and no.

She was wrong because she could've found some other way to introduce things. Like, yes you can have a baby at your age because your body is naturally ready, but you shouldn't be because your brain isn't ready for that. You shouldn't have to go deeper than that. She was right because she does have to make students see that sex isnt a game that you can play over and over again and still feel good about things after the rules were broken (catch my drift?). Now my question for you is did you sign a parent form? If you didn't you can say you never gave permission, but be calm, because honestly teachers get enough abuse as it is for doing what the STATE mandates us to do.
Now like I said, if you want to bring it up, fine. Just stay calm and be the bigger person about it. Plus, if your daughter doesn't seem traumatized by it then it's probably not a big deal that kind of thing does get forgotten after so long anyhow.

 
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Re: Am I over reacting?

7th Grade discussion. So, she is 12 or 13. I think it is CRUCIAL that this information is put out there in any way, shape or form necessary to educate children about reproduction.

So many people want sex, reproduction, love, marriage, relationships, etc. talked about ONLY at home. What people don't realize is that the VAST majority of parents are terrified to have frank discussions with their children about reproduction or pregnancy control.

So, even though the parents of five students in a class step up to the plate and do the responsible thing -- there are 20 that don't -- and that's part of the reason that babies are having babies.

Take a look at the "Teen Sexual Health" section here and see how many times girls are asking "Could I be pregnant?" If EVERY parent was doing his/her job from a very early age, this question would not be so common. But, it is.

The teacher stated a fact without incriminating anybody personally and I would have thanked him also.

 
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Old 10-27-2011, 06:31 AM   #9
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Good morning,
Even though I don't agree wth the teacher . for peace sake I would not call the school to complain. he was unprofessionally tryng to convey a message.

 
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