Re: Would you be friends with these people?
The kid is a regular bully and I would stick up for your son to the fullest, as well as address the fact with his parents. Bullying is now a huge focus in schools, and children are being taught how to deal with bullying. It is being taught that standing by while bullying is going on, is as bad a doing the bullying yourself. I am very surprised at your husbands reaction..Our job as parents is to protect and nurture our children, and this does not mean to leave them to deal with such horrible situations alone.
I agree with you, that your children should not have to ever go to their house again, as well as them never being invited into yours again. When we allow others to do to our children, what we do not allow them to do to others, we are sending very mixed messages, which is not good at all. There are too many good and nice people around to mess around with self centered beasts.
I would express your feelings clearly and openly with the parents to explain the reasons for the end of your friendship. Sugar coating this would be a disservice to your son.