Re: 14 year old daughter has very little/ no respect for me, her mother
I think maybe if you didn't make comments, and grandma didn't make comments about her weight, she may not get her feelings hurts and feel worthless and not good enough, and may be more open to having a closer relationship with you. She is at a VERY impressionable age and her self esteem is very delicate. This is the age where she is going to start discovering who she is. Being told she is overweight all the time, is going to effect her self esteem in a destructive way. I would try loving her for who she is, and not focus so much on her weight. If you pressure her about her weight, she is more likely to act out and end up resenting you and hating herself. I think you should stop with the comments, and since you buy the groceries, maybe make healthier choices.