Re: Potty Training
I have all girls (ages 8,6,3 and 1). With my second and third, we had very similar issues. Especially with the second! I finally got to where I wouldn't let her do "big girl" things because she wasn't acting "big." If her big sister got to go and do something fun, she would have to sit out and watch because she wasn't big enough because she didn't want to poop on the potty. It was a control thing. At first, she was like, "Fine, I didn't want to do that anyway!" I acted like it was no big deal to me.... almost as if I didn't want her to poop on the potty because it was just easier for me to not have to deal with her at "big kid" things. I'd just make little off handed comments like, "It's so much easier to have you here in the stroller watching big sister play on the playground!"
I think the last time she pooped in her pullup, we were at a birthday party and I had to take her outside in the freezing cold to change her (there was no WAY I could change that foul smelling thing inside the house!), and I made it as uncomfortable for her as I could (on the driveway, no changing pad), and the whole time, I was describing what she was missing inside the party while we were outside freezing out arses off getting her disgusting poopy pullup changed. I also made sure she knew that everyone else knew it was SHE who made that horrible smell inside the house! She hated knowing she was missing the party, hated being outside in the cold, and hated knowing people knew she was so gross, and that was the last time she pooped in her pullup!
I think from the time we started the "big kid" stuff, until she started using the potty full time, it took about a month. Hope this helps!