My best friend told me tonight that her step son (he's 15) has been masterbating into her bra and underwear. He literally goes into her drawers and gets them, then when he's done, puts them back (soiled) They have caught him several times masterbating and found pornography on his computer, which I guess is pretty normal, however, the bra thing seems a little unhealthy to me. Anyone have any thoughts on this?
This is a form of rape. He is doing it for the same reasons that many males rape women - to exercise his perceived power and dominance. If it were just a horny obsession, he would try to cover it up, but he wants his stepmother to know what he is doing. Get him into therapy, he is seriously unhealthy. Sera.
Really? I asked her if maybe she thought he was doing it to be disrespectful, and I asked her if he and her had had an arguement, and she said no. He's attitude is fine toward her. His dad confronted him about it this evening, and the boy said he just couldn't stop. They came to her younger son's baseball game right after he was confronted and his mood was fine. He was in a great mood actually.
His mom died in a car accident last year. Him and his sister were both in the car as well, but they were unharmed. He basically saw his mom die. My friend and her husband then got custody of him and he moved here from out of state.
So you think this was intentional as well, and not just a teenage boy exploring his sexual desires?
So you think this was intentional as well, and not just a teenage boy exploring his sexual desires?
There is definitely more than that going on. Publicising his masturbation like this at his age is not normal sexuality. Is he having counselling for his traumatic experience? I still feel that he is acting out to make himself feel more powerful and I still feel that there is a type of rape involved. This is a very aggressive and angry act, and if he cannot control it, then he really needs therapy. Sera
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If it were just some kind of sexual fetish thing, he would hide the evidence. Letting her know he does it goes beyond a sexual fetish and suggests he has some kind of mental imbalance
One thing that comes to mind is maybe he has an attraction to his step mom? He's a teenager and she IS his step mom. His mother died only last year so his step mom hasn't been in his life for TOO long. It's a little weird that he masturbates into her bra and makes it known. It does sound like he wants to be caught. I would say counseling for sure.
when my son was that age and would masterbate in his room he would hide it and I would just find towels and stuffed under the bed, trying to hide it. I would say this is not normal. sorry. So yeah, you're probably going to have to talk to him about going to counseling, it wouldn't hurt at his age especially with what he has been thru. If you leave it alone you will never know what it going on. cj
