| | my 9 year old daughter is messing with her feces
I need advice...my 9 year old daughter has on three separate occasions,only at school, smeared her feces on the toilet, the stall walls and an ipod docking station. She usually lies about it when first questioned but then ends up disclosing the truth. When we question why she is doing that she says it helps her deal with her feelings of frustration and anger. For the last two years, my daughter has struggled to deal with a challenging girl in her class. I think this is who she is often angry or frustrated with. When it first happened during the last school year, there were also other events that she had been a part of. She dumped paint on a teacher's computer keyboard, water on a teacher's desk, hand sanitizer on another teacher's desk. At that time, we felt it was an attention getting thing as she is a kid that always complains of minor injuries, scrapes and bruises, as well she is a second child of four and I am also a teacher at her school. I think she lacks appropriate strategies for dealing with big emotions and this is the way she has come up with to deal with it. My two big concerns are that if this challenging student in her class was to find out what my daughter has been doing then she could really make things difficult for my daughter and if this is what she is doing to cope at 9 what will she be doing when she is 14? Cutting? etc. How do I handle this? What strategies can we teach her to use to cope with these feelings? Any advice is appreciated!