difficulty with relationships - Personality Disorder Message Board

blue cloud · 10-06-2002, 01:29 PM

i was justy wondering if anyone with a PD has huge difficulty in relationships
if so how do you overcome this

i am struggling so much i dont want to hurt people and i hate being alone but i just cant get this relationship thing right as i hate them one minute and love them the next

any advice would be great

Fuzzy Bear · 10-07-2002, 03:49 PM

Soft fuzzy hugs for you Blue

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Kaitie · 10-11-2002, 02:30 PM

Hi! I have so many problems with relationships - its impossible to list them all. I can't stand putting my destiny on other people's shoulders - but I've found that as much as I can do - it really depends on having an understanding companion. You could try your darnest to act appropriately in a relationship - but you'll more than likely fault once or twice, and it's when you do have a bad day - that someone nice and understanding can make all the difference!

And as impossible as it is for me - giving my companion a little space now and again seems to really help both of us. I can't stand being alone and I have the horrible ideas that he's cheating, or having fun without me ect ect, but you just HAVE to do it.

The key is to remember that you and whoever your sharing yourself with - are TWO DIFFERENT people. What you feel might not be what they feel, and it'll be very hard for them to understand where your coming from sometimes....

All the best...

Kaitie

blue cloud · 10-25-2002, 06:21 AM

thank you katie and fuzzy i am in a relationship at the moment but he is living about an hjours drive away he is also very busy so i only get to see him about once a week that may sound stupid but it is working i guess i just need to start slowly and build it up

fuzzy i do have black and white thinking very much although i am working in therapy on a grey area

i do hope you are ok fuzzy please post and let me know

katie you too

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love and bubbles blue

GingerL129 · 11-07-2002, 12:10 PM

I am not dating right now because I can't control my feelings sometimes either. Somethimes I think if someone was their I would feel better. Then again, my boyfriend dumped me a year ago. I have a huge fear of abandonment and he flat out dumped me. Then, he recently told me that he never loved me. To anyone who has BPD, can you understand what all of this could do to someone? He turned into a total meany head and he was the first guy I really loved. When it comes to relationships- I just don't know. But I thought I'd let you know you are not the only one out their with problems.

Good luck.