compulsive lying - Personality Disorder Message Board

caligurl7 · 12-15-2002, 09:01 PM

I am so embarassed. For the last few years, I think I have become a pathological liar. I lie to people to make myself seem more interesting and better. I am so ashamed of myself and I would die if I ever got caught. Is there any advice out there to help me quit telling lies?

blue cloud · 12-18-2002, 05:28 AM

hiya and welcome to the boards

it is very difficult sometimes to distinguish between what is normal and what classifies you as ill
i was diagnosed with BPD and everything i did from there on i blamed on my personality disorder and told my self i would have to stop doing that to get better but a lot of the stuff i did a lot of people do also people who are well.
so for a long time i couldnt work out what was me and what was my illness

obviously i dont know what lies you have told but we all lie everyone does sometimes its difficult not to. but there is a point where the lies can take over your life if you think that it has become a problem and it is troubling you then you should go and see your dr and hopefully he or she will be able to put you in touch with someone who can help

let us know how it goes

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love and bubbles blue

Debbie68 · 01-01-2003, 04:56 PM

Caligurl,
I once heard that lying "happens" when you try to make yourself sound more interesting and is caused by low self esteem.
People who lie do so because they think the truth is too dull or not exciting enough and people won't be interested in what you have to say. Once you start lying it is like a bad habit that is hard to break-kind of like smoking.
I have known a couple of liars in my life and eventually they get caught in a lie because it is hard to remember your lies so you end up contradicting what you have previously said. I think I have told lies before at the very least I have exaggerated circumstances in the stories I tell. I know I have done this to add drama to whatever story Iam relaying.
Don't feel so bad. People who are your friends will like you no matter how unexciting or uneventful your life may seem to you.
Take care,
Debbie