Originally Posted by GertieMae
Iam getting married in the Summer and have a question.My Fiance has two small children,and Im consuming myself with worries at how I can be the best Mommy to them when I fear so much.
For example:I have a slight fear of going to the Doctor.I go but dont like to.Iam TERRIFIED of Dentists,but go if/when I must.Children need frequent check-ups and get sick from time to time.
Iam nurturing and have Motherly instincts so there will never be a problem with the children not being taken care of properly.
Do you think it will help me or make me a nervous wreck everytime they get sick or need medical care?
I know it is ridiculous,but I cant continue letting my Phobias and fears get in the way of Motherhood.
Im concerned what Pregnancy will be like for me because of my fears and Phobias.I so much want to be a Mother.
it sounds to me like you are going to be a great mother. i think that every woman has the same fears as you, as far as hoping the mothering instinct will take over some of the phobias we have gathered over the years. the only thing i can tell you is that being a mother is an amazing thing. you will be able to do things with your mind, body and spirit you had no idea was possible. believe me i know. i had pregnancy complications, a near fatal infection 6 weeks after delevery, blood clot, separated shoulder and my son was born in full respitory failure. this was 5 months ago. we are doing great now. i have gotten over so many things you wouldn't believe, i have picked up a few phobias as well, but such is life. you just have to deal with things when and if they come. i am still having anxiety problems but trust me, my son thinks life is a party all the time. just make sure your partner understands that side of your personality and you take it one day at a time. you will be great!