Hi I was wondering if deppression can make a person social phobic, I dont know if this is the right board to post under but recently I have lost all desire to be with people. I feel distrustfull of everyone, even my sister and mum and dad. At work I have been trying my best to avoid my colleauges, I sometimes run away if I see someone coming in the distance and hide!
Also when deppressed is it normal to feel extremly confused? Yesterday after work I was feeling exhausted and in KFC it was my turn to order and I just couldn't think, I felt dead and my voice felt robotic. I get this often just a dull feeling in my head and I feel emotionless.
could it be lack of self-esteem and self-concious rather than "phobia"?
I have this similar problem like you. i don't have any friends and i only hang around myself. I barely talk and because of that when someone all of a sudden talks to me, I would fidget , look else where , stutter and mumble. i felt like a person who can't speak. if i do speak, the words i use doesn't make any sense. I'm not like that when i was at high school. ever since i left high school and lost contact of my friends i started to feel more like a loner.
my heart would race and my ears turn red when people approach me.
you are spot on about confusion too. i have that problem as well. my mind gets "blank" out when someone asks me a simple question or when i ring up to enquire about a simple thing.
i need to do something about this problem. my guess is that because i don't "excerise" my brain, the part of the brain will be "dead".
What i am doing hopefully to improve my situation is look myself in a mirror and talk to myself, and study my facial expression so that i don't feel self-conscious.
secondly, i would read more and tape any radio-talk shows and mimick how people talk and converse. or maybe i should be ringing to any service providers and hear how they "sale" their products to their customers so that i could learn and copy them. we really need to do something about our brain or else other memory illness will strike.
Last edited by jimmyhonda; 10-06-2006 at 03:15 PM.
I think it's normal to suffer with things like this when it comes to being depressed.
I go through this too. Blank mind, I can't recall simple things, like someones name that I have used a thousand times before!
My guess is that your desire to run away from people around you, is caused by an understanding of your vulnerability in social situations because of these things.
It seems like I never know when this is going to strike, So far, i haven't figured out what to do when i'm in these types of situations. I hate getting laughed at, I guess just try to laugh it off?
Thanks for your posts. I have to add that at times I feel quite sociable when I am at work, but I dont have any close friends to socialise with outside of work. I guess I'm a loner. God! why do they always stigmatise someone who has no friends as a being a weirdo? I watch the news and stuff and they always describe the rapists/murderers/pedophiles as ''Loners'' I'm just a normal guy who is just shy, has low self esteem and is deppressed!