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made_of_clay 11-02-2007 01:14 AM

first time spoken about phobia... desperately seeking understanding..
 
im an 18 year old boy and i have been suffering from a phobia for as long as i can remember. im finding it hard to type this even now, but i would like someone to discuss it with. i have vestiphobia, which means im afraid of wearing a imparticular form of clothing, (in my case, im afraid to wear long sleeves under short sleeves) its wierd.. but whats wierder is that it makes me sexually attracted to girls who wear the sleeves..
i know that its wierd, but thats just another thing that adds to my fear.. i can't speak to my friends or family about it, even though i know i should.. all i feel i can do is keep it secret from the world other wise i would be cast out as a 'freak'
if some one has the time, i would like to discuss this..
thanks

Pri Lily 11-02-2007 07:41 AM

Re: first time spoken about phobia... desperately seeking understanding..
 
You're not a "freak" phobias are very common, and can be about "anything"!

Try to remember when this started, and what was happening at the time. Did someone wearing long and short sleeves ever scare you? Anything like that?

Let us know....

Lil

made_of_clay 11-02-2007 09:22 PM

Re: first time spoken about phobia... desperately seeking understanding..
 
well thats the problem, i seriously can't.
all i can remember is that the furthest back when it first began was in kinder garden/ 1st year of primary school.
i think i remember a kid screaming at me back then... that could be something? i guess?

thank you for replying lil

Pri Lily 11-02-2007 09:46 PM

Re: first time spoken about phobia... desperately seeking understanding..
 
Usually when a phobia is that specific, it goes along with a specific event.

It's not like being afraid of snakes, or spiders...very general stuff.

Did you ever wear long sleeves under short sleeves....in kindergarten, maybe?

Try to think of why you get excited, when you see girls wearing this type of clothing.

Lil

made_of_clay 11-02-2007 09:56 PM

Re: first time spoken about phobia... desperately seeking understanding..
 
well naturally girls are beautiful creations
and as much as my phobia is terrifying, it reacts to how i feel in a sexual way...
this is incredibly difficult to say so please,please don't take offence.
but everytime i attempt to put it on it gives me....an erection... so embaressing..
in this way, i guess when a girl wears these sleeves, i find that imparticular female, so much more beautiful in appearance.

on the second part to your question, i guess instead of it freaking me out, it may have felt more like a toy.
when i played games, it use to always involve the sleeves, 'brainwashing my toys' or 'trying to take over my bedroom'
and now, even though i am completely aware of how silly it is, i just can't shake its effects

Pri Lily 11-02-2007 10:11 PM

Re: first time spoken about phobia... desperately seeking understanding..
 
I think you might be afraid of it, because you get sexually excited, and that embarrases you.

If it's really bothering you, you may want to see a Doctor about it.

Good Luck

Lil

made_of_clay 11-02-2007 10:19 PM

Re: first time spoken about phobia... desperately seeking understanding..
 
yeah, im definately considering it, right after i complete year tweleve.

thanks for talking lil, i appreciate it.

one other thing though, talking on the net is slightly easier then talking in person, but do you think i should have my friends (at least my closest friends) aware of what ive been hiding.
what im really asking is, if you think its a wise idea.

thank you

dan

Pri Lily 11-03-2007 05:27 PM

Re: first time spoken about phobia... desperately seeking understanding..
 
I think that maybe you should discuss that with a Doctor.

Sometimes people don't understand these kind of problems, and you should be prepared for their reaction. A Doctor can help you with this.

Lil


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