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Old 07-08-2001, 06:58 PM   #1
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Unhappy Nyctophobia, Fear of the Dark

Isn't being scared of the dark a childish thing? It's something I never "grew" out of. I am 24, and so scared of the dark. I'm afraid of what lurks there. I also have a problem with gory images that stick in my head, and of course, they always seem to pop up when I'm in the dark. They keep me from sleeping. When I go to bed, it doesn't matter what might arise, I'm not putting my feet on the floor for anything...not to pee, not to brush my teeth, not ANYTHING that I've forgotten or suddenly think of. My feet have to be curled into the folds of a blanket, or I'm scared something will "get them". I seem to think that there's some unwritten rule that "something" can't get you if your under the covers.
When I come home to a dark house, I immediately turn on all the lights and check the house. I check the bathroom to make sure there aren't any dead bodies in the tub or a discarded fetus in the toilet. I check the closets and pantries to make sure nothing is hiding there to get me once I turn the lights off. Bathrooms and bedrooms are the worst for me. I also have OCD...but I'm more obsessive than compulsive...I obsess about the gory images...the dead bodies...and I'm so scared by them that I can't even perform a "compulsive ritual"...The only compulsive thing I can do to get rid of it all is to repeat to myself that I am 24 years old and I'm a big wimp. I usually fall asleep thinking that. I've tried visualizing other things, pictures of loved ones...but the faces always morph into something just as bad as the original thought.
The biggest reason this bothers me is that I've got a 4 year old son...I'm a single mom. I can't go and turn the bathroom light on for him because I'm too scared to, so I put a stool in the bathroom so he can do it himself, and I sit and worry about him while he's in there.
I'm going through pre-marital counseling right now...I think I'll bring it up to the counselor. Thanks for reading. Any advice or affirmation that I'm not a nut-case would be appreciated.

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Old 07-10-2001, 02:05 PM   #2
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You are not nuts. Maybe hypnosis could help you. I'm 14 and still afraid of clowns. Maybe ya should bring it up. I could help I have OCD as well. It's no walk in the park Try it http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/cool.gifI get a little scared myself.



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Old 07-14-2001, 03:00 PM   #3
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Hi There-
Maybe if your'e afraid of the dark you should try this:

Turn the lights off and lay on your bed. Close your eye's. Spread out your arms and legs. Relxa. Take a risk. Say, " Okay. Im here. Come and get me. I don't care. Im not affraid of you. ". Just completly forget about everything. You wont get killed. No one's going to hurt you. If there are ghosts they wont do anything to you. JUst try facing the dark!


Who knows maybe this will help. Im sure lots of people have told you the same. But try it! Really! Face the dark!!

 
Old 07-18-2001, 02:32 PM   #4
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Do you have a TV in your room? Try to watch it until you fall asleep. Try Nickelodeon, Cartoon Network, or Disney. I read until I fall asleep. Try it. Even NW001 has a great idea too http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bang.gif One of the three should work.

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Old 06-16-2005, 09:22 AM   #5
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Re: Nyctophobia, Fear of the Dark

I have been researching for answers and I discovered your message.....Your story is my story....Nycophobia- is terrible, and I don't know what to do . I am desperate. Your message let me know that I am not the only one. I sleep with the closet light on, and I am married. My husband supports me but I feel like a freak. This is taking over my life. I am scared when I am awake at night, and I am scared of the terrible things I will dream when I go to sleep. I pray and Pray and I feel so alone.

 
Old 06-16-2005, 10:39 AM   #6
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Re: Nyctophobia, Fear of the Dark

Hi. I am terrified of night-time in general. I am afraid to be driving in it-aliens might get me. I am not joking. I am terrified of it. I heard that its more common than you'd think about-the fear of alien abduction that is.
But, I am also afraid to fall asleep. I am afraid of losing control of my already scary thoughts. Its awful. I stay up as long as I can, I am so tired.
Once daylight breaks and the news comes on, I feel so relieved. Most nights I fall asleep out of pure exhaustion.
I can move around in the dark, but I'd prefer not to. The sleep thing is the worst though.

 
Old 06-16-2005, 07:25 PM   #7
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What do you do to calm down....or to bring yourself to a happy place?

 
Old 06-16-2005, 08:59 PM   #8
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I pray a lot. I also put on old movies or DVDs that I know by heart. That way, its comforting and I can fall asleep with a "good" thing on tv.
I absolutely cannot sleep without a TV on. I will lay away all night. I need the noise to drown out my mind and the light to feel comfie.
I love "King of the Hill" and I have the first season on DVD. That used to be in my player all the time. That was easy to fall to sleep to.
As for my aliens thing-I just try not to think about it too much. It sucks.

 
Old 06-16-2005, 09:55 PM   #9
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Re: Nyctophobia, Fear of the Dark

I am almost 33 and scared of the dark also, I usually sleep with full light on, not just a nightlight! I must always have a light of some sort, and I also immediately turn light on when entering a dark room or house. I am afraid of what I might see in the dark, I can imagine all kinds of things...however I am not too hard on myself about it and I sleep ok with the light on so I just do that.

 
Old 06-17-2005, 07:40 PM   #10
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OMG.......I thought I was so alone with this problem!!!
I cannot sleep without a night light, and have to turn the lights on anytime I have to get up to use the restroom or anything else. Before leaving my room at night, I have to check every room and even pull back the curtains to the tub before I can use the restroom. As soon as I get back to my bedroom, I jump into my bed (I don't want to leave my feet on the floor too long, as someone might grab them from under my bed). Every single noise startles me, and it takes me hours to calm down enough to sleep. Then, once I sleep I am easily awakened by any noise, and I often have night terrors, and suffer from sleep apnea.

If you find out anything that works for your fear, please tell me! I am so glad to see I'm not the only one!

 
Old 02-25-2008, 06:56 AM   #11
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Re: Nyctophobia, Fear of the Dark

i am about to be 20 years old and i am in college, being afraid to fall asleep has ultimately really screwed up more than my sleep cycle. I lay in bed but i refuse to go to sleep, i can only sleep facing out from the wall because I'm afraid something will sneak up on me. This sounds insane but my biggest fears which i know are not rational include Chucky, Hannibal Lector, and zombies. These three and more have prevented my sleep for more than 10 years. I dont really know what to do, i finally said enough is enough and i found this website, i cant say how much better it made me feel to know im not the only one with this problem. I feel really bad because i am also disturbing my roomate with this problem. I lie awake for hours because im afraid if i fall asleep something will get me so i make up irrational reasons why things couldnt happen like saying i would wake up and hear if there was really someone about to attack me. I'm actually afraid to tell this to anyone except a few close people because they would probably just mark me off as crazy. Last night i went to bed close to 4 am because i surf my internet until i just cant do it anymore. I just want to be normal... Please if anyone could say anything at all about this. I would so deeply appreciate it!

 
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