I dont know if you remember, but I went to my doc and told him that I had social phobia, general anxiety attacks and the whole bit. So my family doc put me right away on a small dose (10mg) of paxil. After about 3 weeks they took me off it cause i got sick and they thought it might have something to so with it.
Anyways, now, about a month after stopping the paxil I don't really get anxious in general and panic attacks. Sometimes I do get nervous in social situations, but I dont think I ever had a social anxiety disorder. I mean, sometimes when I have to talk to adults (im 19) like for example last week when I was invited to some of my parents friend's house by myself I do get a bit nervous, or when I hang out with people that are not really my crowd.
But I think my real problem is that I don't feel like I fit with people. I don't know. It's like when I talk to them they are not interested. I don't know exactly how to explain it. Its quite frsutrating really. I might be in a group of people that don't know each other. And at first I might be the first one to try to talk to everyone and I do and get along fine with everyone. However, as time passes by all the people will get to know each other better and they will leave me behind.
I feel like I am just not interesting. I don't really know what is wrong with me. I mean, I do talk to people and I do have friends. But most of the friends I hang out with are old friends, I feel like I don't have the ability to make new really good friends. I know some of you will say that most people dont have a LOT of good friends, but still. When I was younger I prided myself on my ability to make friends....
It's like I'm always the outsider in groups. Also I feel like I have to go and start conversations with my friends, like they are not that interested in talking. Some of the people in school that I am talking about are great people and I know that they don;t do it being mean. It's just like I feel that I am not interesting. I feel like I am doing something wrong!!!!
I don't know what and it is extremely extremely frsutrating. I have had this for a few years and I just dont know what to do. I had paxil for a few weeks and it was good but then it did nothing. Cause I think something is wrong with me... I wish I knew what my conversation lacks, what I'm saying wrong.
At least I have a few people i don't have problems with but its rare....
AH! Glad to get that off my chest and into writing.. Im VERY SORRY if I rambled on too much, but it felt great......
Im trying to get a psychologist for this.. no more meds...
if you could please tell me what you think I am doing wrong, had this happen to you or have any comments AT ALL PLEEEAAASSSEEE tell me cuse i would really appreciate it....
I think I have the same problem that you have. Something similar anyway... I don't think seeing a counselor/therapist or anyone like that will help in my case. I also don't want to go on meds, not that I think I would need to but people have told me that there are drugs to help my condition, whatever condition that is.
So far anyway, it's almost like what you are going through Simpleman
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I get that way too around people it's not bad but it's an axiety of some sort nothing that throws me for a loop though and I would never caller it social phobia because it just wasn't that bad with me.. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> mom told me for years it was my epilepsy LOL now I know this not to be true or it would do this everytime I met someone new which it didn't I think just sometimes I sorta felt outta place and sometimes I didn't I am sure alot of people on here are the same way.. I allways thought of it as sorta being shy I don't really know I just never thought to much of it <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Its not that your not interesting, your probaly a very interesting person. It sounds like a bad case of low self esteem. and even if people don't find you interesting, who cares. different people are interested in different people, thats what makes us who we are, our intersets. A behavior therapist will defenitly help you. Good luck, and remember who cares what other people think you have to look at yourself in the mirror everyday not them. as long as you like yourself noone else has to.
Most people are most interested in themselves and their own part of the conversation. People are so in need of being listened to.
Try asking about their feelings and their interests first, and I quarantee you they will think that is interesting, and they will be more interested in your feelings and opinions, too, unless they are totally self-absorbed, then that is not your fault! It says nothing about you.
I know someone that finds most everyone boring...she is about the most boring person I have met. She is never interested in others.