Re: ejaculatory phobia
Sounds like your mind is playing a really bad trick on you, believe me....our two heads are very much connected! Matteo is right, keep working at this and just let go, the pattern is apparently set and now you have to change the pattern. One suggestion would be to work with different types of lubrication [hand cream, saliva, olive oil (its great!)] Try to focus ONLY on the pleasure, try not to think about the orgasm or ejaculation but lose yourself in the pleasure of stimulating your penis from its base to the head. Take your time and enjoy it. This may help to "get you over the hump" no pun intended! Relax, maybe take a nice long hot bath, fantasize about your dream partner. Its a strange thing, once we get something in our head that can be a problem....it just takes over. I think things will be fine, you just have to work a little bit at it! Good luck and enjoy your practice!