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Old 01-06-2012, 05:37 AM   #1
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Do I have social phobia? here are my symptoms

I feel awkward when I talk on the phone with someone, even if itís someone I donít know. For example, if I call to make a hair appointment I feel like everything Iím saying is being carefully scrutinized and judged. (I know logically that they arenít really doing this but I just canít shake the feeling)

∑ When I talk to people I get really stiff and have a hard time breathing if they are too close to me. Especially if I feel like they can look closely at my face and can read my body language. I try really hard not to show that I am nervous or self-conscious and sometimes it becomes the only thing I can think about. It makes it hard for me to keep up with what they are saying.

∑ I always scrutinize my thoughts so carefully. Iím always trying to figure out whatís wrong with me ďhow come I canít just be myself when Iím around people?Ē

∑ Sometimes when Iím talking to people my face will start to feel hot and will turn red. This happens mostly when I feel that Iíve said something stupid, or I feel like Iím talking too loud, or my voice sounds annoying, or if I have to talk to an audience.

∑ My voice shakes really bad if I have to read to a classroom, or give a speach.

∑ When I'm in public anywhere I get the paranoid feeling that people are staring at me.

∑ When Iím upset and I start to cry around anyone even my loved ones I feel extremely embarrassed and sometimes I will start to hyperventilate, which makes me feel even more embarrassed, I feel like Iím having a panic attack when this happens.

∑ Whenever people walk past me, my immediate instinct is to move out of the way. Especially my dad.

∑ I never feel comfortable around my dad, even when heís upstairs and Iím down stairs I feel this constant nagging in my stomach. When he comes home from work I get very nervous and sometimes I feel like Iím being a little hysterical, I always run through everything Iíve done that day to make sure I havenít done anything that will **** him off.

∑ In the past two and a half years or so Iíve gone from having tons of friends to having literally no friends. The only people I have are my boyfriend and my mom. This didnít bother me for a while but Iím realizing now that itís not very healthy. Iím scared that someday me and my boyfriend wonít be together and ill have no one but my mom. I want desperately to make more friends but Iíve been avoiding confrontation with people for so long because I just canít deal with the anxiety.

∑ Iím scared that some part of me doesnít think logically because my self-esteem is so damaged. My moms seams to think its because of my dad. I donít think Iíll ever be able to feel comfortable around him or even living in my house. I tried to convince my parents to let me move out but they want me and my boyfriend to create a second home in our downstairs, so that I can finish high school and college without having to worry about paying rent. My boyfriend really wants to do it, and I decided to give it a try. I feel like if I went on some medication for my anxiety it would help me a lot, to make friends and keep a relationship with my dad.

 
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Old 01-29-2012, 09:08 AM   #2
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Re: Do I have social phobia? here are my symptoms

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I feel awkward when I talk on the phone with someone, even if itís someone I donít know. For example, if I call to make a hair appointment I feel like everything Iím saying is being carefully scrutinized and judged. (I know logically that they arenít really doing this but I just canít shake the feeling)

∑ When I talk to people I get really stiff and have a hard time breathing if they are too close to me. Especially if I feel like they can look closely at my face and can read my body language. I try really hard not to show that I am nervous or self-conscious and sometimes it becomes the only thing I can think about. It makes it hard for me to keep up with what they are saying.

∑ I always scrutinize my thoughts so carefully. Iím always trying to figure out whatís wrong with me ďhow come I canít just be myself when Iím around people?Ē

∑ Sometimes when Iím talking to people my face will start to feel hot and will turn red. This happens mostly when I feel that Iíve said something stupid, or I feel like Iím talking too loud, or my voice sounds annoying, or if I have to talk to an audience.

∑ My voice shakes really bad if I have to read to a classroom, or give a speach.

∑ When I'm in public anywhere I get the paranoid feeling that people are staring at me.

∑ When Iím upset and I start to cry around anyone even my loved ones I feel extremely embarrassed and sometimes I will start to hyperventilate, which makes me feel even more embarrassed, I feel like Iím having a panic attack when this happens.

∑ Whenever people walk past me, my immediate instinct is to move out of the way. Especially my dad.

∑ I never feel comfortable around my dad, even when heís upstairs and Iím down stairs I feel this constant nagging in my stomach. When he comes home from work I get very nervous and sometimes I feel like Iím being a little hysterical, I always run through everything Iíve done that day to make sure I havenít done anything that will **** him off.

∑ In the past two and a half years or so Iíve gone from having tons of friends to having literally no friends. The only people I have are my boyfriend and my mom. This didnít bother me for a while but Iím realizing now that itís not very healthy. Iím scared that someday me and my boyfriend wonít be together and ill have no one but my mom. I want desperately to make more friends but Iíve been avoiding confrontation with people for so long because I just canít deal with the anxiety.

∑ Iím scared that some part of me doesnít think logically because my self-esteem is so damaged. My moms seams to think its because of my dad. I donít think Iíll ever be able to feel comfortable around him or even living in my house. I tried to convince my parents to let me move out but they want me and my boyfriend to create a second home in our downstairs, so that I can finish high school and college without having to worry about paying rent. My boyfriend really wants to do it, and I decided to give it a try. I feel like if I went on some medication for my anxiety it would help me a lot, to make friends and keep a relationship with my dad.
Hi Rachel, I'm Almost the exact same way as you. I have the same feelings around my father and whenever im attending a social event I'm pretty nervous.

This all started after my family moved cross-country. Having to re-establish relationships was a very difficult task for me and something I have failed to do for the most part.

Everytime I would try to talk to somebody bad thoughts would keep popping up in my head. I would be nervous enough to do anything to get out of that situation.

I'm looking at taking some kind of antidepressant and go from there.

Best of luck to you. Hope to hear back from you.

 
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Old 06-12-2012, 11:19 AM   #3
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Re: Do I have social phobia? here are my symptoms

Self medications cannot help both of you that much. Social anxiety, low self esteem and negative thoughts are playing their role. certain therapies or techniques by a professional psychologist can help both of you to get rid of this social phobia.

 
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Old 08-25-2012, 04:39 PM   #4
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Re: Do I have social phobia? here are my symptoms

If I was you 2 I would go get some professional help don't be ashamed that you need help millions of people all over the world use them every day I had one when I was suffering from my fears and it helpd to talk about stuff I didn't feel was ok to talk to other people about.

 
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