Quote: "My muscles are so tight that I can't relax them to allow her to take a pap test. She says this is a major sign of sexual abuse, but I certainly don't recall any such trauma! It's very frustrating, because I go through major pain just having a pap test (and that's with the smallest speculum!)."
Boy, I'm very surprised your doctor suggested sexual abuse to you like that!

Geesh, hasn't she heard that it can be from just plain nerves? If it makes you feel any better, I was exactly the same way before I lost my virginity. I was petrified of the doctor using the speculum and remember it hurting so bad that he stopped, and I assure you, I was not sexually abused in any way during my life. I think some women are just more sensitive, as you put it. To this day, even after having two babies, I tense up when I have my annual exam. Everyone is different when it comes to exams, and you and I just happen to tense up like that as I'm sure many other women do.