I also have complex ptsd from prolonged and repeated torture that involves mor than a few major phisical problems...bones broke fractures disclocations all left to heal on their own over time...not to mention multiple near death things, intentionally being left near dead but still breathing with no way to get myself to sources of help. I only tell these things to you so you understand that I understand the difference to complex (severe) ptsd.
I have no depression so I'm not sure if my answers will even apply to you and your husband...I really do not believe there is a 'standard' way to treat any of us major leagers. I know many of us, who like I - and a Vet who posted a very moving post in this - who came through, to different levels, of thier own accord. We do no persciptions and theripy. Actually, this is of no use in your case I feel safe to say, my sanity in this all came from will always come from surrounding myself by others like me...NOT at all in the sence of group therepy! there is never anything spoken of such..We just know each other - the ups and downs associated with this, it is the only refuge I need or want from this branded subconience of mine...We can tell when on is about to get caught up in it and just knowing that I am understood so completely is so important in mantaining stability...If I'm working in a bikeshop with others with ptsd and see the aggitating rising, I work on thier shoulders (I am a lady by the way!). When I go to feeling any of my billion different symptoms, I always know that if I start to waver, the people around me are right there beyong in empathy, simpathy, worry, ect. My calmness 99% of the time is restord in that these people can FEEL what I feel.
That is one of the most horrific, outside of what is felt inside that you have no conseption of the depth of- and I hope you never do!.., most horrific things we suffer from: being alone. This is only really comprehendable to those like us. People have way too many comarison in thier minds of ptsd to depression- that is totally out!!! Yes there are some overlaping symptom likenesses. The Medications are equally percribed for both, in alot of ways. And as that does work for some ptst victims, I obviosly do not need to tell you that us sever models aren't so easily dealt with!!!! I have never tried any perscribed 'solutions' ever.
I will write more soon, my roomate has the TV on and I cannot consentrate. Can't type so about now I am ready to fly off the handle
ne of my ptsd is a very short fuse, very..But I know this and know what I need to do to turn it around before someone gets the blunt of it...More later