I really believe that therapy is a long involved process-that unless you feel entirely confident/comfortable w/ the Dr. you are working with-and are willing to keep your head/heart open-there will be no growth/resolve-etc..
This relationship must be built on trust in the dr..their approach etc.
If you look at the therapist-(and ive done this in the past)-and start analyzing them..its not working..I have been in/out of therapy at differant times in my life-as a teen-13-19..as a young adult-26-29..and now as a 40-something adult-for the past 2 yrs..
Only now as an adult-i have finally found the right DR..to work with.
Counseling is TRAUMATIC..unraveling the past-making sense of abusive parents-bad relationships-and ultimately-yourself.I got more ill-at the beginning of therapy-i was angry and extemely depressed..to put all these problems/issues in front of you and make sense-of abuse...its harsh..
I had extremely neglectful/abusive parents-that still to this day-still push those buttons-narcissistic people..that cannot truly love..the component i needed as a child-and as an adult.
The key to healing-is to recognise it was NOT your fault-and to ultimately piece together-the past and present..to find love from w/in-to be able to break that chain-to let it go-to work on your own world.
I had to stop communication w/ my folks-and i did not attend any holidays/events for the past year or so.
I guess they have finally realised im out of the loop-what do the do?
Find another sibling to work over-my sister is now the focus of there angst..
I have started a light communication w/ them-as they are getting on in years-and need to make peace-for myself and them.
They will never GET it..so i have to deal w/ that-i will never be loved the way i need to be-its too late..but im learning..to accept this..
I have survived there abuse/neglect/harsh comments/-ive also had substance abuse-divorce-and traumatic encounters w/ others in my life..
My feeling is that no matter-what..i have to rise above-i cannot lay down and lose the fight-why should i have no quality of life-because i was hurt-
My best revenge is to not succumb-and i still got some living to do..
As do all of us..