I'm almost afraid to repond to your post 'cause I don't have an answer. It's different for everyone, but you're definately not alone. Are you on any meds? Sometimes that can help. I take zoloft and also have klonopin as needed. Exercise, breathing exercises, relaxation tapes and talking help. I'm also in therapy. I have no idea how much I've spent. It's been a lot though. Luckily, I have good insurance. But, it's still $15 copay which adds up after a long time period; not to mention gas and a babysitter. But, it has saved my life.