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Old 08-25-2006, 06:00 PM   #1
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Question In Searching A Therapist

I'm in need of a therapist... I have 2 issues with this, 1) I've had an abortion that is part of my PTSD (My Phsycologist had to do a search to find me one) 2) I was sexual molested when I was a child and for some reason therapist see that as ticket for continuing income... I don't trust A LOT of people that is why I'm looking for things to look for in finding one! I don't want to tell my story over and over and over again.. The first time was painful enough and it didn't amount to anything, I don't think I could stand to go through that pain again....

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

 
Old 08-26-2006, 05:59 PM   #2
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I tried therapists 2 times and don't I wish they let me talk, no way. If it is not something nice to hear they don't want it as anybody else. It was shouting, insulting, talking about things he/she interested in. Name everything chemical unbalance, push you to take drug and come to them to discuss shopping or heardo (byw is not like person even know much about it).

 
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Old 08-27-2006, 09:48 PM   #3
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The best way I found to avoid retelling the story over and over was to write it down and bring it in to any meeting I had with a potential therapist. Let them read it, even if you can't or don't want to, and then ask your questions about what they can do for YOU and what they have to offer. Finding out what the specialty is of a therapist is BIG help. there are websites that offer background/specialty info on therapists (psychology today magazine has one and if you google them you can find it.)
Its painful to rehash the stuff that drives us into therapy, writing it down and printing it out is one way to lessen the emotional pain of trying to find a person you trust to help heal. Trust is a BIG issue, and any therapist that doesn't acknowledge that right off the bat with you is not someone you want to bother with!

 
Old 09-03-2006, 06:46 PM   #4
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Two people I had wouldn't bother to read something I brought, which could be red flag. Second one betrayed my trust by encouraging me to complain and pretended to be compassionate than one day she just let me had it, telling me what she actually think about me. When I dumped her she was bothering me over the phone incouraging to come and complain again. What kill me is that she said with a big respect: You are not somebody to bs with. She meant a compliment but I was thinking that this person's job is bs people when I was actually think she is there to help.
That is why I would strongly suggest refferrals.

 
Old 09-04-2006, 10:55 AM   #5
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Get a list of therapists (by referal from a professional that you respect or off any list) your therapist must specialize in trauma and survivors of molestation and ptsd then do yourself a huge favor and look those therapists up on their state lisencing board which you can find online and then get a number to call. To discover if past clients have complained against them? If they have then skip on the therapist. If not then try the therapists for one interview and see what they will do to help you. Make them describe what they will do to help you. Ask questions. If the therapist seems insensitive, agitated, bothered, overwhelmed or very bored then skip on the therapist. The most goal orientated therapies are Cognitive and Behavioral. Psychodynamic and Person centered are just talking it out and doing nothing to move foward or solve problems. Psychodynamic therapists will ask you a lot of questions thinking that you will have the answer within you (which isn't true considering you would have known by now) and then person centered they try not to ask too many questions but they just sit back and relax and let you do all the talking and they just "validate" you by repeating near everything you say and they will act in a non-judgemental fashion towards you but again they do not focus on moving foward, healing or problem solving. I think that Emotion Focused Therapy is the best talk therapy but again they do not focus so much on problem solving.

Well I would highly suggest Cognitive and behavioral therapists who specialize in PTSD, also look them up on the state licensing board too and do a background check. On the state licensing board website you will also see a list of rules and policies that govern the counselors conduct. It should have a definition of what counseling is. Read through that. You will be better prepared if you happen to walk into an incompetent or manipulative counselors office. The website will also tell you how to file a grievance with the state in case your therapist is abusive to you. Abuse can be psychological and covert. So be aware.

Be careful and critical of who you choose because Therapists can be corrupt and evil like anybody else.


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Old 09-04-2006, 09:19 PM   #6
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Re: In Searching A Therapist

I think strongernow has made a few valid points, but in an overly-cynical fashion.

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...number to call. To discover if past clients have Tcomplained against them? If they have then skip on the therapist.
Therapists treat mentally ill clients on a regular basis, many of whom are severely mentally disturbed. Complaints are easy to file against a therapist and can tarnish a good therapist's name. I would be weary of a history of complaints for sure.

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Make them describe what they will do to help you. Ask questions.
I don't think this can be done... a therapist can't hand you a sheet printed off a computer listing the things they are going to do to help you. EVERY PERSON is different than the last. EVERY PROBLEM different than the others. This is a customized process of helping. The best you can do is find out their style of therapy, and then judge them as a human being (ie Is this someone who I could build a relationship with?). You do do this by asking questions though, so I agree with that.

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The most goal orientated therapies are Cognitive and Behavioral. Psychodynamic and Person centered are just talking it out and doing nothing to move foward or solve problems. Psychodynamic therapists will ask you a lot of questions thinking that you will have the answer within you (which isn't true considering you would have known by now) and then person centered they try not to ask too many questions but they just sit back and relax and let you do all the talking and they just "validate" you by repeating near everything you say and they will act in a non-judgemental fashion towards you but again they do not focus on moving foward, healing or problem solving.
All good therapies have goals. CBT goals aren't any more important than an existentialists goals or Gestalt-based goals. They just go about it in different ways. Nobody on this board can tell you which one will move you forward or solve your problems. You have to find that out for yourself.

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Well I would highly suggest ... therapists who specialize in PTSD...
Agreed, if you can find a therapist who works specifically with PTSD go for that. And regardless of their psychological approach you would probably be best with someone with lots of PTSD experience.

 
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OK just some comments and my opinion only on PTSD. it is as different as all other disorders have their own characteristics. i have seen many therapists for GAD and co-dependency. luckily i only had 2 that i just didn't jive with. didn't like their method so i looked further. when i was dx with PTSD i was lucky enough to find a specialist in the field and we did juve immediately. she gave me the greatest help i had rec'd from anyone. after 1 year i felt good and felt she was starting to rehash things i had come to terms with. we decided to part at that time but left the door open if i wished to come back. haven't needed to in over a year. she gave me so many helpful ideas on how to handle future trauma, how to recognize the fact that i see certain things as traumas and maybe someone else wouldn't. so far so good. if i felt i had to return i would in a heartbeat.

 
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Therapists treat mentally ill clients on a regular basis, many of whom are severely mentally disturbed. Complaints are easy to file against a therapist and can tarnish a good therapist's name. I would be weary of a history of complaints for sure.



If person is smart enough to find out where he/she can complain and file complain he/she is not that crazy. I myself complained to one person to insurance and I wanted to do same thing for second one but she was calling and apologizing and I decided to take into consideration that she was somewhat helpful at first.
Back in my country I was told about one therapist who liked his profession 'cause he can do anything he wants to people and nobody will trust them since they are mentally ill.
Although I would imagine sometimes it is possible that person just misunderstand good intentions and trying to pay back but I would take it very serious and skip this specialist. I've heard that good therapist get his clients from refferrals of other clients.


I think it is important for therapist to tell how much time he/she thinks needed to help you and how she plans to help you, it can be adjusted later. Second person I had just expected me to come all life on a weekly basis to talk about her shopping for everything in local pharmacy, fleamarkets, my hairdo and so on.

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Old 09-06-2006, 11:06 AM   #9
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If person is smart enough to find out where he/she can complain and file complain he/she is not that crazy.
Definitely incorrect. First of all, you can be insane and know how to manipulate systems and people. Secondly, when you are treating clients/patients who suffer from bipolar disorder you never know what to expect. Don't know if you have experience with people afflicted with this disease, but if you do then you know that they can be quite dangerous and deceiving.

 
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I "unfortinately" had experienced a lot of pain from a "so-called" crazy people who did work assignments but creating scandals and troubles aroung and all kind of schemes to destroy me for years so I know what you are talking about.
At the same time I wouldn't discount a possibility that doctor is guilty since I had 2 bad experiences myself.
If doctor has complain which was investigated and he found guilty or he has more than complain I would skip him.

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Old 09-06-2006, 05:21 PM   #11
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At the same time I wouldn't discount a possibility that doctor is guilty since I had 2 bad experiences myself.
If doctor has complain which was investigated and he found guilty or he has more than complain I would skip him.
I agree, definitely be cautious when selecting. I was just trying to defend competent therapists who have had complaints filed unjustly. It can be devastating as it sounds like you know, and it's a shame when a career is damaged over one incident that was unfounded.

 
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