triggers and obstacles - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Message Board

ICC · 01-22-2007, 01:26 PM

triggers:
1) death
2) phony, ignorant, mean, nasty, selfish people
3) trouble makers, people who invade my privacy
4) those that wear the "mask of friendship" to eventually use my weaknesses against me for their own gains.

obstacles:
1) emotional instability ( i called it emotional immaturity once and my therapist felt I wasn't immature at 5 years old)
2)having unreliable, non-supportive people in my life at all. Recognizing them.
3) getting back to my "gut" and seeing through those that shouldn't be a part of my life. Getting rid of those I don't need in my life.
4) having a hard time taking care of myself when someone else needs me and NOT putting them first.
5) building boundaries!!! knowing when to and how to.
6) knowing what i feel without spending days trying to figure it out, knowing the difference in how hurt, anger, sadness feel and which is which.
7) patience with myself and the rest of the world.
8) learning how to feel and not getting scared. feel, accept and get on with it. learning how to live, laugh, love again
9) being comfortable being in peace. not waiting everyday for the other shoe to drop. just letting it drop where it may.

This is all a part of me right now that I am trying to figure out. contractors are almost gone for the day and my bubbles are waiting. will be back later.

Love to all,
ICC

stick2013 · 01-22-2007, 03:08 PM

Hi ICC,

Ok, so what have you decided now that you are squeaky clean, and full of Kenny G.... Which of your Triggers, or Obstacles do you want to work on first???? I presume that this IS the main problem that you are having lately right?????

So in order to tackle these, you have to figure out which one is most important, and work on that first. It's all about prioritizing, taking things slow, having PATIENCE, and being kind to yourself even if you walk into a few walls.(so to speak)

So which one is it?????

Hugs,

Sid

ICC · 01-22-2007, 04:35 PM

Sid---i am finally on my way to the bubbles. I would have to say emotional instability would have to be the biggest since I believe if I had that I would know how to react/not react accordingly. since i have been criticized for reacting and not reacting I think my emotional instability has alot to do with not being sure of myself anymore and where and how to draw boundaries. I want to protect myself but not isolate myself. the unsurety in myself I believe is a big problem. I feel like a child who doesn't know what to do without being led by the hand. right now i am at a stand still. i don't even know how to continue with my life.Where to begin. i feel like all I do is go to dr.s. what kind of life is that? I feel if i was emotionally stable I would know how to build boundaries and would be alot more comfortable, less afraid and life would be somewhat easier instead of being onguard all the time. I'll be back after the bubbles.

ICC

Phoenix · 01-22-2007, 06:33 PM

Dear "ICY,"

We will talk tomorrow; definitely. Let me know when you feel comfortable enough to do so.

Take care all
God Bless all

FTM

hergy · 01-22-2007, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by ICC

obstacles:
1) emotional instability ( i called it emotional immaturity once and my therapist felt I wasn't immature at 5 years old)
7) patience with myself and the rest of the world.

I realize we're working on these one at a time, but I think you're anxiety over emotional instability needs a bit of number 7, patience with yourself.

When I crammed for a test, I made an A. Did I remember the answers later? Nope. Don't rush.

No one else's criticism has anything to do with your own plight to find peace with yourself and your experiences. You have a right to be troubled, sometimes confused, sad, then to rise up and empower yourself. Sometimes you have to ignore the ignorant people.

Set a comfortable pace with reasonable goals. You've got the desire and strength to reach them. And you're so worth it. I love who you are. Love that lady. You wouldn't rush anyone else. You'd guide them along.

I don't know anyone who has achieved complete emotional stability. Crappy, unnatural events pop up out of nowhere and can throw anyone off track.

You seek to function with peace and contentment. I know what that search is like.

Maybe write down what you feel is holding you back from achieving the emotional stability your looking for. Start at the top of that list and work your way down.

You can do it. We're here for every step.

Love,

Nikki