Good morning all---I had a flashback of a session with the counselor i was seeing before this one. He was the one who dx me. Closed his private practice shortly after and went on to be the Director of Psychology in one of the VA hospitals to work with Nam vets again. I spent almost 5 years with him. Started seeing him for grief counseling and wanting out of the job I had full of dysfunctional, horrible people but could not make the move. He asked me one day if I could look at interactions with others in the form of "windows" as in computer windows. In your mind picture your mind as a window, full of issues. You are interacting with someone else, they also have their "windows" open full of issues. I had a hard time at first remembering this when interacting with others and totally forgot the concept until this morning. Imagine interacting in a group and all have their "windows" open , full of issues. Sid i think this concept helps immensely with what you have told all of us. We have to weed through the bad people, keep the good ones by our sides. It helps me looking at the "window" concept in grounding me to know each and every person I come in contact with has their "windows" open and they are all full of some agenda. Some good and some full of issues that they will try to inflict on me. To me at this moment what it means is that we are all different, have different pasts, will have different futures and as a computer crashes if we deal with too many open "windows" that the software conflicts with, our lives will be harder. I hope this made sense and helps someone to look at the world differently.
Hugs to all,
ICC