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Old 01-30-2007, 05:36 AM   #1
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Good morning all---I had a flashback of a session with the counselor i was seeing before this one. He was the one who dx me. Closed his private practice shortly after and went on to be the Director of Psychology in one of the VA hospitals to work with Nam vets again. I spent almost 5 years with him. Started seeing him for grief counseling and wanting out of the job I had full of dysfunctional, horrible people but could not make the move. He asked me one day if I could look at interactions with others in the form of "windows" as in computer windows. In your mind picture your mind as a window, full of issues. You are interacting with someone else, they also have their "windows" open full of issues. I had a hard time at first remembering this when interacting with others and totally forgot the concept until this morning. Imagine interacting in a group and all have their "windows" open , full of issues. Sid i think this concept helps immensely with what you have told all of us. We have to weed through the bad people, keep the good ones by our sides. It helps me looking at the "window" concept in grounding me to know each and every person I come in contact with has their "windows" open and they are all full of some agenda. Some good and some full of issues that they will try to inflict on me. To me at this moment what it means is that we are all different, have different pasts, will have different futures and as a computer crashes if we deal with too many open "windows" that the software conflicts with, our lives will be harder. I hope this made sense and helps someone to look at the world differently.

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Re: using windows in interacting

I like that idea. I'm going to have to reread to get a fuller understanding, but I'm open to anything that's proven helpful to someone I respect.

Thanks. You always take time to explain what you mean and to open up. You're an incredible help. Keep being yourself. Just knowing somebody's feeling similar to me makes me feel less alone.

You nurture and, even though it's supposed to be Sid's job, you kicked my butt major big time recently. I didn't like it at the time. But, after Sunday, I realize the value of your advice. Thanks, cyber mom.

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Nikki----i'm sorry i kicked your butt but if it helped i am grateful. I can kick butt with the best of them but it is not common for me to do it when someone is hurting. the post about the "windows" is hard to grab so read it over and over. it'll become clearer. it gives a different insight on how to interact with people. helps me as I am usually wide open for everyone, even the baddies, to see my vulnerabilities and sensitive nature.


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