I'm fuming! - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Message Board

beka6 · 06-30-2007, 01:41 PM

In my eternal quest of figuring out what makes me tick - I have discovered yet, another trigger.... Being taken for granted. Right now, I have several independent situations (mostly work related) where people are throwing expectations at me that are just plain ridiculous. I am struggling to set boundaries, but even when I do, I am finding that I am still so ANGRY at these people for their unbelievable expectations in the first place. I know it probably stems from my own stress right now, but I am just so mad at the moment.

I'm trying to figure out where this is all coming from - whether it's deep seeded family of origin trauma stuff, or whether it comes from just feeling helpless and disrespected. All I know is that I have such a powerful reaction when I feel like I'm being taken advantage of.

Thanks for letting me vent.... I am going nutty today!

Beka

Sannah · 07-01-2007, 06:06 AM

Beka, you are really uncovering a lot of stuff! I would guess that all of your past feelings about these topics of feeling helpless, disrespected and taken for granted are all involved here. Discovering the issue is the first step in solving it and you WILL solve this with your determination and intelligence! Keep venting as needed!

beka6 · 07-01-2007, 10:53 AM

Sannah,
Thanks for your reply. How are you these days? I think you are right - the anger is fueled by so much past junk. Usually, when I feel angry, I bottle it up. Yesterday, though, I let it out in a few healthy ways. It made such a difference in how I felt!

Thanks, again, Sannah!

Beka

Nyxie63 · 07-02-2007, 03:52 AM

Beka,
Maybe try to think of it this way - these people must think a great deal of you if they expect so much from you. You've probably proven yourself to be extremely capable and responsible. While these are great assets, they can also be burdens as well, especially when it becomes expected of you all the time.

ICC · 07-02-2007, 04:25 AM

Hi Beka....Sannah and Nyxie are both right. I suffered through the same dilemna at work for many years. I was , in my boss's words, his best supervisor. Hence all being expected of me. I was flattered many years ago and due to the lack of any sort of praise from my mother I kept going and going. Then ended up resenting it. So you see although it started with the family we tend to carry this behaniour over into other areas of life since underneath we are pleased that we are so respected and then it turns on us when there are no boundaries and we burn ourselves out. Anger attacks. This is what I meant. You understand totally.

Grasshopper