Confrounting your abuser. - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Message Board

JACKFLASH · 07-09-2007, 11:23 PM

I recently found the personal email adress of my abuser. I contacted him and made shure he was the correct person. We had several friendly emails. WRITING THOSE ALMOST MADE ME SICK. I wanted to get information from him so I kept it friendly untill he asked me why I contacted him after 30 years. Then I let him have it. I told him that i remember him so well because in my flash backs I can see his face and hear his voice like it was yesterday.I contacted him because I wanted him to remember me and know how much he hurt me. I wanted him to have to live with that. I never heard back from him after that email and probably never will. It felt so good. I hope he is worryed that I am going to tell on him. Has enyone else ever confrounted their abuser? How did it make you feel?
Jack

NVD · 07-10-2007, 12:09 AM

Wow...must have been pretty powerful, huh! My attacker has been in and out of my life for as long as I can remember, but is now in jail for the first time. Actually, he's there for other charges right now, and then will go to trial for my case. I'm sure I'll have to be there at some point, and really do not look forward to seeing him again. Who knows, maybe it will be as empowering as your experience...I can only hope.
Good for you, I'm glad it made you feel better!
Amber

Dee-nah · 07-10-2007, 12:22 AM

One of my attackers are dead, the other one is in jail for drugs and I don't know what is going on with the 3rd... You had guts my friend, I don't know if I could of done that... Give yourself a hand!

JACKFLASH · 07-10-2007, 12:25 AM

I wish I could take legal action but it has been 30 years and he was a teenager. He molested almost all of the children in my neigborhood. I had to take what little justice I could.
Jack

Dee-nah · 07-10-2007, 12:27 AM

I had 3 abusers and there is nothing I can do about it but it get better. They destroyed my life, I'm 33 now and I'm not letting them destroy what is left... I don't even think I have it in me to be honest, I'm exhausted.