I'm sorry to hear about the difficulty that your daughter is having right now. You seem to be taking all of the blame for her decisions and I don't think that is very fair to yourself.
There are many reasons why teens act out. Your accident and current health situation may only be a part of what is going on here. That is just how I feel, anyway. You are so hard on yourself sometimes. Keep praying for your daughter - I know that prayers for your daughter can completely alter the path that she seems to be heading down.
I'm sorry if I've been too opinionated here...
When I was about 17, I completely went off the deep end. It was for many reasons, but my mother still feels guilty to this day for things that she did or didn't do that contributed to my "acting out." It's our job as parents to do our best with our kids and feeling guilty and blaming ourselves is a natural part of it all. All we can do is our best.
I understand what you are saying(I really do) but my best[under the circumstances] was not good enough; when a social worker and family physician confirm what I already stated(my daughter acting out because of my inability to spend time with her), it's rather difficult to see it otherwise.
I"m sorry, Ryan. Having the social worker and doctor tell you that must have been extremely hard to hear. Does your daughter talk to you about things? What does she say about all of this?
My first thought was to say that "this, too shall pass," but I'm not so sure I believe that statement anymore. I don't know if it ever truly "passes" - I think it just morphs into something different. I'm sorry that things are so rough right now.
Good morning.....Ryan I am well. second surgery went as well as the first BUT i knew everything that was going on this time. UGH! They told me they call it the second eye syndrome. Sight is great for 24 hours. I see the surgeon this morning and then it will be a month's recup until I see him again. BP was 120/65 so I know not smoking is a wonderful thing for my health.
Ryan....I do know how you feel about your daughter. I raised 3 of them and had things go awry at times because of something I didn't do or time I didn't have. Please try to not blame yourself as the accident wasn't your fault. I need to get ready for the Dr. but will check back later.
It's good to know that all is well with you, with respect to the surgery and the BP.
I also like the fact that there is a follow up the day after surgery.
I get my stitches taken out this morning and then another appointment afterwards.
My daughter wants to go everywhere with me now, so I oblige her.
School is less than a week away; i need to give her reassurances that I will be here as long as humanly possible for her.
The accident was not my fault but then it boils down to the "blame game" all over again; which "re-invents the wheel" as to my anger directed at the lying driver,"witness" and insurance company(come to find out that the insurance company stated I was on a cell phone, whilst I had none in the vehicle or on my person at the time of the accident).