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Old 08-21-2007, 01:11 PM   #1
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ptsd. The forum for me?

It should be that we can can post here because ptsd is what we suffer from, but it is such a complex disorder................
depression
anxiety
sleeplessness
flashbacks
triggers
relationship problems
addictions.
I've not posted for fear it will be removed! but this is MY PROBLEM that I HAVE because of PTSD.


My son has a PERSONALITY problem............personality board
and uses HEROIN.................................. ..drugs and alcohol board
I am medicating with ALCOHOL right now........ alcohol board
He's made me sooooooo sad........................depression board
and I fear for his future.................................a nxiety board
and he has diabetes................................ ...yep, diabetic board
and then you answer other posts on the way............and I haven't even mentioned half of what others suffer!

Oh dear...............now I know why not seeing him was a good idea at some months back!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh am I confused.

 
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Re: ptsd. The forum for me?

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I do know what you mean about what board is the right board. I feel the same way my self, right now I am depressed and upset over the change of doctors. should I be on the depression board?
What board is the best for me is the question. I chose the PTSD board for that is what my doc said I was suffering from. It is so hard to figure things out when we are in the middle of all he other crap going on in the rest of our lives.
Figure out what board is the right fit, people who post on the other boards have more insite on that particular issue and may be of more help to you.
good luck, we do walk the same walk.
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Old 08-21-2007, 03:31 PM   #3
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Re: ptsd. The forum for me?

There doesn't seem to be a board where I do fit into.

happily married woman with 3 children to hubby, who also had another 2 children beforehand to a man who was a psychopath, who wrecked one of their lives because I stayed married to the numpty!! and one turned out to be a psychopath (wrecked my life too, but I've got over that now), but ..........

Maybe the www. (whatever) hits me with so much force, sometimes, maybe I wish I didn't know, yet at the same time, right now, I need ALL my cyber buddies! Thanks for listening.

 
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Re: ptsd. The forum for me?

I found that this board helped me through all. At times when a separate health issue has come up I have also visited that specific board for answers. PTSD is my main disorder so when I am depressed or anxious it all comes from my PTSD.

Good luck to all in finding a home,
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It should be that we can can post here because ptsd is what we suffer from, but it is such a complex disorder................
depression
anxiety
sleeplessness
flashbacks
triggers
relationship problems
addictions.
I've not posted for fear it will be removed! but this is MY PROBLEM that I HAVE because of PTSD.


My son has a PERSONALITY problem............personality board
and uses HEROIN.................................. ..drugs and alcohol board
I am medicating with ALCOHOL right now........ alcohol board
He's made me sooooooo sad........................depression board
and I fear for his future.................................a nxiety board
and he has diabetes................................ ...yep, diabetic board
and then you answer other posts on the way............and I haven't even mentioned half of what others suffer!

Oh dear...............now I know why not seeing him was a good idea at some months back!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh am I confused.
Dear IM:

I hear you loud and clear but here is the thing:

A person with PTSD can also suffer from depression and a host of other disorders.
It is my reasoning that those with depression cannot suffer from PTSD, for it is a completely different horse(metaphorically speaking).

If one has depression, then there are specific symptoms which the specialist would identify from the DSM-IV.

In as much as you have PTSD, your son's situation seems to aggravate the "heck" out of it.

We can give you opinions on your PTSD and how loved ones may effect you.

ICC(Grasshopper) seems to have hit the nail on the head.

Only thing that I can add is if you want a more elaborate and in-depth response about your son's relationship to you, it may come from the relationship board.

Now don't get me wrong(for in the past I have been known to be misinterpreted), we are here for you and always will be.

How does your son feel about posting; it might just provide some insight.

The wonderful thing about this website is that there really isn't an issue that doesn't fit into at least one of their boards.

Take care
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I've been thinking and thinking, then thinking some more. Yes, icc did hit the nail on the head in one hand. I will wander to several of those boards. I have before. Seeing him, after an 18 month break did make me feel worse emotionally. I think I was trying to say - my son causes me emotional stress. Not how it should be, how do I change me, to be able to see him and stay in the present, not be bombarded with the past. Also, I debated posting on the death and dying board! I'll like your opinions. I know I have grieved for the son I never had/never willl have, (and maybe always will), but I don't want to appear insensitive to those people who literally have lost a child!! Physically he is still here..................
phoenix - you'll be pleased to know that misinterpreting yours (and others) posts are a thing of the past for me. I now read exactly what is there!
I'm learning slowly. I hope everyone is doing good.

 
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Isitme , my friend. I can't answer as far as the death and dying board as my opinion is that's what they're for. I understand how you feel but I feel the relationship boards might be better. I have read many a story there about those who have had to deal with a bad relationship/end a bad relationship with a family member. you kno wmy story. Just thinking about my mother, which I do and also pray for her daily, makes me uncomfortable.... I can have nothing to do with her. It's gone too far and I have no good feelings towards her. Just heartache for me. I don't know if you can have a relationship with your son and stay in the present. Although I believe with alot of hard work and some god therapy you can. it will take strenghth and determination to do this. Wishing you all the best.


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Re: ptsd. The forum for me?

Dear isitme:

The boards are full of support and answers; please utilize them; just don't lose sight of your main focal point.

I wish your son well and hope that he will find his way soon enough but he must want to.

Posting on the death and dying board would not be the best thing(in my opinion), unless he were terminally ill and the prognosis for his recovery was bleek.

I also agree with ICC that this is more about the relationship (or lack thereof) that you have with your son

He still has a chance(even if it seems remote to you) of changing his life around, doesn't he? (food for thought)

Take care.

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Seeing him, after an 18 month break did make me feel worse emotionally. my son causes me emotional stress. how do I change me, to be able to see him and stay in the present, not be bombarded with the past.
Isitme, the most important thing that I have learned from these boards is how to stop the past from infringing on your present. I actually used what I learned here with great success. When you are triggered use the self-talk to tell yourself that your feelings are coming from the past and not from the present situation. I did this several times whenever my anxiety would be triggered and each time the anxiety got less and less until it disappeared.

 
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hi Sannah...I agree totally about staying in the here and now BUT when there are that many issues with someone and they see none of it and create constant long lasting triggers for a person I don't believe there is any relationship that can withstand one person constantly reminding themselves to stay in the here and now while the other is abusing them, badgering them, etc. JMO but I don't see where a relationship that destructive is worth pursuing.

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Good point ICC, because if the relationship of today still sucks it is in the here and now and it isn't just being triggered from the past. I didn't realize that they are having issues between them now. I just thought that her son was triggering her memories of her ex because they are similar.

 
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Sannah...maybe I'm wrong and hopefully isitme will come along and straighten us both out BUT i look at it as I do my mother. Horrible relationship that never was good. Never changed. IF I had anything to do with her today it would be the same as always hence she wouldn't be triggering the past for me but continuing the anxiety, offensiveness and abuse in the present. JMO>

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Sannah...maybe I'm wrong and hopefully isitme will come along and straighten us both out BUT i look at it as I do my mother. Horrible relationship that never was good. Never changed. IF I had anything to do with her today it would be the same as always hence she wouldn't be triggering the past for me but continuing the anxiety, offensiveness and abuse in the present. JMO>

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Very well stated, ICC. I completely agree and relate to what you've said here.

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Sannah...maybe I'm wrong and hopefully isitme will come along and straighten us both out BUT i look at it as I do my mother. Horrible relationship that never was good. Never changed. IF I had anything to do with her today it would be the same as always hence she wouldn't be triggering the past for me but continuing the anxiety, offensiveness and abuse in the present. JMO>

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I really don't know the answer myself. It seems a bit of both. I know palpatations and anxiety are high facing the problem, hence the delay in responding. I've had a wander to the relationship board. I may be enlightened there. Thanks all.

 
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Re: ptsd. The forum for me?

Hi all. I've done a tour of all the boards and now I've come full circle back here!
Another question. it's confusing me................

Anxiety = a fear, right?
Face the fear = the fear is overcome, right?

So, with that in mind, over the months, I have tried to face my fear which is - my son and his problems, (having had 18 months of not contacting him because of the fear/anxiety og how he is in the first place).

What I am asking is - Not all fears can be overcome, can they? Sometimes, it is less stressful using avoidance? As you say with your mother, icc. No matter how many times you try, you will always get your mother. And every time I see my son, I will always be faced with his drugs, his personality disorder, his way of life. That then intensifies the belief/anxiety that he is killing himself slowly though self neglect, the police will come knocking on the door here to say he has died, etc, etc. I have tried and now I know, itisNOTme!!

 
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