Originally Posted by racingfan5566
Phoenix- we have had a multitude of very emotional discussions. I've told him repeatedly that I understand the "needy/clingy" part of the PTSD and would understand his need to contact/talk to this other person. I've told him that although I wouldn't necessarily like the truth, the truth is much less hurtful to me than lies. He says he understands, yet he still lies to me... I have read a fair amount on PTSD and in none of the information have I found lying a symptom... I understand patience, but how patient can you be with someone who lies and runs off to be with another woman?
He is being downright inconsiderate of your feelings.
If he is feeling "emotionless" inside, it is going to manifest itself by his words and actions.
It really boils down what amount of this you are willing to put up with.
Have you thought to ask him what he is getting out of this relationship with the woman? Obviously it is satisfying some innate need of his; whether physical or psychological.
What you are ultimately expressing is that you do not trust him, which has been known to interfere with many a relationship.
You have to ask yourself if it is ultimately worth the aggravation.
He seems to be looking out for himself and if he also has PTSD, you are choosing to "roll a boulder uphill with no assistance."
If love is not reciprocated, is this a loving relationship or just one based upon convenience,at this point?
You can do so much for a person but if that person refuses to put in the effort, you are getting the short end of the stick.
I would begin looking out for myself because he(sorry to say) seems to already be taking care of his own needs.
Is he in therapy or taking any medications; something is not quite clear here.